[ SECRET POST #2482 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2482 ⌋

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Comments

[feotakahari]

In retrospect, one of the first clues I was asexual was that I just plain didn't understand infidelity. I first encountered it in The Firm by John Grisham, where Mitch cheats on his wife with a beautiful stranger, this isn't the first time he's done it, and he's supposed to be sympathetic--I couldn't figure out why he would want to have sex with someone other than his wife. (Of course, it didn't help that the line that convinces him to do it is "No one will ever know." Is that really the moral standard you want to use, Mitch?)

As for infidelity in other works, I've never read or watched another one where the cheater was supposed to be sympathetic rather than detestable. (Catherine doesn't count--Vincent's never entirely a consenting partner unless you get Catherine's ending, and in any event he's not really sympathetic anyway.) TV Tropes says it happens a lot in stuff where a woman cheats on a man, but every listed example is either something I've never watched or read, or an "aversion."

[(Anonymous)]

I honestly don't think that has anything to do with asexuality. A lot of sexual people don't understand cheating or why someone would cheat on their partner. Or maybe I'm just not understanding you.

[feotakahari]

What I mean is that to me, sex is something you do with your partner. I wasn't in a position to understand Mitch having sex with a stranger, since he already had a partner, and he didn't seem to want the stranger to be his partner instead. Maybe that's a normal thing for sexual people, but there sure are a lot of men (in real life, not in fiction) who act like they're making a great sacrifice by only having sex with one woman.

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DA

no thats pretty normal for a lot of sexual people. not that there aren't examples otherwise, but it's reaaaaaally not a question of sexuality vs asexuality. a lot of the time, cheating isn't even "really" about sexual desire. and your real life examples seem to be more of a personality/reflection of cultural standards for guys than anything related to being sexual in general.

[(Anonymous)]

How would you feel about emotional infidelity? It's a similar sort of betrayal, although depending on context, not everyone holds both kinds of cheating on the same level.

[feotakahari]

I don't really know. It seems like it's something that happens when the person you're with is failing to provide the support you need to stay mentally sound, so I can't completely condemn it. Then again, unless the person you're with is abusive and/or completely unreasonable, you should be able to talk to them about feeling abandoned. (And if they ARE abusive and/or completely unreasonable, it's in your best interest to find a way out of the relationship if at all possible.)