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Yup. And ignore the anons. Everyone has at some point and so long as you NEVER do anything of the sort, it's cool.

It's always fun imagining getting rid of people you fucking hate, but, as I said, the catch is never acting on it.

I don't think I've ever imagined that...

Maybe I'm just a goody-two-shoes or something.

No, I have never imagined or fantasized about killing anyone. Maybe at most, like, tripping them as they walk by or becoming much more successful than them. But murder fantasies?

I don't think that's normal, dude.

No. Wth no. I have never thought of killing someone or pushing them down the stairs or pouring bacteria down their clothes. What the hell? That is not normal.

Just because YOU'VE never done it doesn't mean it's not normal.

da

Whether "normal" or not, it's bad and unhealthy thinking. It's not "okay" just because many people do it.

Thank you, Dr. Anon. I'm sure you're an expert in what makes certain sorts of thinking "bad and unhealthy," from a legitimate medical perspective.

and thank you, edgy!anon who is trying to normalize fantasies about violently murdering people you hate. I'm sure those fantasies never lead to action in the history of the world, and that we should totally be encouraging people to continue having violent thoughts because it's ~normal~ for mature adults to have.

You're quite welcome, judgey!anon who thinks that well-adjusted adults can't tell the difference between escapist fantasy and the prelude to a murder spree, and that shaming people for the harmless thoughts that go on inside their heads (as opposed to their actual actions) has ever had a positive effect of any kind.

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I'd like links to some kind of research that proves this is unhealthy, because personally I'd say it's one of the more harmless ways to vent one's anger. As long as you're not wishing death on everyone who accidentally bumps into you, and as long as you're not ACTUALLY harming anyone, I don't see what the problem is.

I tend to react this way if I'm feeling both angry and powerless. If I can't ACTUALLY do anything to get out of whatever situation I'm in, I fantasize about revenge until I calm down. In situations where I have enough power to actually get myself away from whoever I'm angry at, I just remove myself from the situation before I feel that need to lash out.

It's the same as imaging that person you hate as the boss in a video game and gleefully tearing them apart with weaponry or your character's own hands.

Jeez, this person must be a fucking saint if they haven't ever done this. A judgmental as fuck saint.

I like to think that being a judgmental fuckstick precludes the possibility of sainthood. But apparently there's something ~*~wrong~*~ with me, so what do I know?

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Yeah what the fucks wrong with you

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Well, actually, there's some solid research behind the idea that "venting" anger isn't actually cathartic or useful or harmless--it really just perpetuates the anger and negativity.

Yes and just because you or OP have done it doesn't make it normal either.

No; the fact that it's normal makes it normal. But don't let that stop you from the hilarious fun of diagnosing people over the internet, or whatever makes your skirt fly up.

I don't wear skirts and I haven't diagnosed anyone. You must have me confused with a different anon.

But I do find it funny when people try to argue "just because you and a bunch of people don't experience this doesn't mean it's not normal. I and a bunch of people do experience it so it's normal."

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This. I try not to make assumptions about the lives of anonymous people on the internet, but when I see people reacting with such shock and horror to the idea, I can't help but think that they must have had pretty easy lives. Or skipped middle school, or something.

Or maybe that's just not how they cope with things...?

I'm not talking about the people who simply don't use this particular coping mechanism. I'm talking about the people here who get so hand-wringingly horrified at the people who do that they think there must be something wrong with those people.

No, not everyone has had murder thoughts before. for fuck's sake. What the hell could be fun about imagining someone dying, especially you yourself killing them? Whether it's just fantasy or not that's messed up.

Not everyone thinks it's fun to judge other people for their coping mechanisms either. I mean, what the hell could possibly be fun about telling someone they're "messed up" for the way they respond to helplessness? That's just being a dick.

I would like to preface this by stating that I've a) never actually wanted to murder or even seriously harm anyone in real life and b) I've long since moved on with my life.
But.
I was raped when I was in my early teens, got depressed and withdrawn as a result of that, and was then bullied because I was a loner with lots of issues. And even though I'd never ever done it, daydreaming of ways in which I could kill either/and/or my rapist/the other kids that made my life hell pretty much every day? Yeah, I'm not proud of it and I want to stress again that I never once actually considered acting upon those violent fantasies, but they still helped me cope and not kill myself instead.
So, in my book, thinking violent thoughts is absolutely fine as long as you don't actually consider actually harming someone else.

I'm sorry you went through that, nonny.

I'm the same way; in the cases that make me so upset I started wanting to kill people, it's basically like... daydreaming about killing people is the only thing keeping me from killing myself instead; if I start to push the murderous thoughts out of my head, I get suicidal thoughts instead - and those ones, unlike the murderous ones, actually reflect what I want to do in real life. So, yeah, I'm not going to feel guilty about my coping mechanisms since it's the only thing that keeps me from the alternative.

Just chiming in to say that I haven't done that either. I find it extremely unappealing in fact.

I haven't. D: I just tried to and it wasn't very fun and made me feel kinda sick.

Now I'm wondering how many people do think like that. Ngl, the idea that someone may have thought about murdering me is a bit sickening to contemplate.

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