fandomsecrets | (no subject)

⌈ Secret Post #2524 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04.

__________________________________________________

05.

__________________________________________________

06.

__________________________________________________

07.

__________________________________________________

08.

__________________________________________________

09.

__________________________________________________

10.

Notes:

Secret Santa sign-ups go up tomorrow! There will be a post explaining everything again/open to questions, too. Keep an eye out! :)

Secrets Left to Post: 03 pages, 073 secrets from Secret Submission Post #361.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

Unless he's pretty much literally 18, I really wouldn't worry about it. If you're attracted to him, you should go for it. If you two end up getting along, anyone who cares that you're 3 or 4 years older is being ridiculous. Anyone who cares about that in the face of two people being happy together, I really don't understand. Obviously it's no guarantee that it'll work out, but an age gap like that is no reason not to try.

I have a guy friend who's 23, and he's been dating a woman who's about 29 for a little under a year - and it's going really well, as far as I can tell from the outside they're very happy together, and it's been really good for him. It's good to see him so happy. I don't see any reason I would be against seeing my friend happy just because his SO is older than him. Go for it, anon.

DA

But even 18 is fine. Just means the OP is what, 21 or 22? I still don't see a big deal about it. I think the only thing that would make that weird is if the 18yo is still in high school. An adult dating a person in high school is just weird, no matter the age.

It would probably still be fine, you're right. But there's the potential for it to be an issue - there's a little doubt at 18, and then above that, it's just not an issue at all. But you're right.

OMG GUYS i love you and all your replies.

I wanted to specify that we are both way over 18, so I guess that would be okay. (I'm 30, gosh).

I suppose my big worry here is that surely he would think people his age or younger would be better? I don't know, it's not like I feel old or anything, but I think that generally speaking a guy would prefer 'fresher meat', so to speak.

Why must he be SO CUTE though, in a 'I'm really mature beyond my age and hard to catch' that's so freaking alluring to the likes of me?!?!

Oh, yeah, if it's 30 and 26 it's no big deal and you should definitely do that!

I suppose my big worry here is that surely he would think people his age or younger would be better? I don't know, it's not like I feel old or anything, but I think that generally speaking a guy would prefer 'fresher meat', so to speak.

The thing is that maybe he does, and maybe he doesn't. Some people do feel that way (even though it's pretty stupid IMO) but it's definitely not the case for guys in general. And the thing is, I think, at the end of the day, the thing to do is to let him make that choice about what he would prefer, instead of convincing yourself about what his preferences are when you don't know what they are. Again, there's no guarantee it will work, but there's no reason not to give it a shot.

Good luck, I'm rooting for you!

I think I'm making it harder than what it is even because it's been a while for me and I feel EVEN more doubtful and insecure because of that. I feel sort of stupid tbh, but it's in my nature to overthink things to inaction...

I should probably stop censoring myself and talking to him more... I'm not making it any easier to him, because I'm also putting myself in an unavailable position most of the time (to avoid temptation, lol). It's a weird situation because this thing is making me feel like a stupid adolescent once again and I have no idea why... this age gap thing is killing my neurons.

I'm eternally grateful for your kind reply (and everyone else's)

Your looking for excuses now cause your scared period. .

He doesn't sound like the type to make the first move though. So this is on you. Go get some gurl!

You are so right... I was thinking about that before, that I'm starting to make excuses not to act on it.

He doesn't sound like the type to make the first move though. So this is on you. Go get some gurl!
Damn, that is indeed what I think! I MUST DO ALL THE WORK! On Monday I'll try plan A, dammit.

haha yeah 26 and 30 is nothing. go for it if you want to, there is nothing wrong with it! Good luck!

(no subject)

Re: crushing on a younger guy?

Re: crushing on a younger guy?

Re: crushing on a younger guy?

op

Re: op

op

Honestly?

op

Re: op