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⌈ Secret Post #2526 ⌋

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[Doctor Who]

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[Disney]

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[TMNT]

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[Thor: The Dark World]

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[As Told By Ginger]

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[daughter, purity ring]

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[Sleepy Hollow]

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[Attack on Titan/Shingeki No Kyojin]

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[The Producers]

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So lately I've been going through the people who are in my fandoms' blogs and just feeling jealous about how talented they are and how awesome their lives are. And my fandom is small, so it's just a group who talk to each other and write/draw/talk to each other and are all friends. And I wish I could breach that insularity and become friends like they are and be more involved in my fandom besides just looking at their stuff and a polite "thank you" if I tell them how much I like their stuff.

Keep talking to them/commenting/reblogging, eventually they'll accept you as part of the group (that was my experience).
I mean would shouldn't they accept other people (unless you are a jerk, or someone who likes to tell people what they like is wrong, or are too intrusive in personal matters, etc.), but otherwise, if you want to share fandom with others in a good way, it should not be a problem. It just takes time.

I know that, objectively, you probably know this, but you gotta train yourself to remember it until it's ingrained:

- They did not just magically have talent.
- They practiced every day until they got to that point.
- Start practicing now and keep going every day, someday you will look back on your old stuff and be able to see how much you've improved, and there will be people who look up to your stuff.
- Real friends don't talk to you because of the quality of your stuff, they talk to you because you are fun to talk with. If you can't write fic or draw very well right now, you can give them prompts (if they want them) and discuss ideas with them.
- If they are just assholes for no reason they are not even worth it, keeping making your stuff, you'll find better friends.
- Just because the fandom has its own cliques doesn't mean it always has to be that way, there is no law for what you can and can't do in a fandom, even if you don't befriend these people, keep making stuff. If someone new comes to your fandom they're not gonna be immediately aware of the cliques but they will notice it eventually and wouldn't it be nice if they saw that there were some people who were a little bit different and open to newcomers?

Cliques don't spring out of the earth fully-formed, though. If you see a group of awesome people, just peering at them from outside the clubhouse and seething in envy isn't going to get you in. Be awesome yourself. If your first reaction is to say, "But I can't!" then you're definitely doomed. Be awesome. None of those people were born doing what they do, it's a skill they picked up along the way.

If you honestly feel you have no interests/skills and no way to develop any (although really? Nothing at all?), then at least be a good conversationalist, listener, and a person who appreciates what others do. Lobbing in the random compliment is nice, but it's purely a one-time interaction that doesn't offer any reason to continue it. That's why all you get is a polite "Thank you".

Bottom line is, if you want cool friends, you have to be a cool friend. Just waiting around until someone reads your mind and realizes how incredible you are doesn't work.

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