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[ SECRET POST #2526 ]

⌈ Secret Post #2526 ⌋

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[Doctor Who]

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[Disney]

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[TMNT]

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[Thor: The Dark World]

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[As Told By Ginger]

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[daughter, purity ring]

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[Sleepy Hollow]

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[Attack on Titan/Shingeki No Kyojin]

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[The Producers]

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Oh man was this a tumblr person? Because even the people I seem to like the most on tumblr, if they fall within a certain age-set and fandom proclivity, they invariably have a little blurb in their bio about "what's wrong with them". Anything from a mild anxiety order to their sexual identity, to freaking digestive disorders.

Look people, I don't give a shit about your dyspepsia or your confused state of genderfluid cishet socially anxious ethnicity. I really fucking don't. I am not here to rage against society and mope and give asspats for your good day of duking it out with what you sniffily insist is depression an

It's gotten to the point where if you don't have "anything wrong with you", you still need to identify yourself (neurotypical cishet straight blah) so that they know you're in the "privileged camp" and they can slap HDU language on you.

Maybe it's because I'm fucking old in fandom. I'm in my midtwenties, and I feel like a goddamn senior citizen when "back in my day" we left that shit f-locked and under a goddamn cut so that the million+ casual browsers on a journa/personal site and happening across your blog for the Snape porn didn't get an eyeful of the latest installment of your misbehaving vagina and how that makes you feel.

I may love you to death on the internet, but I still have a really hard time getting super invested in your problems when I just want to be your friend because you make really awesome angsty Casablanca/Metal Gear Solid crossovers.

I have enough shit going on in my life that I don't really need for my internet funtiems to become an extension of my RL experience. I don't want to make fandom butt buddies with someone who just wants to fucking moan about their latest over-prescribed pill regimen about something that shouldn't be medicated for anyway.

Wow this got longer and angrier than I intended. Uhm. Well, I'm not sorry. I fucking hate Tumblr, and I wish fandom would gravitate somewhere else that encourages a system of fucking privacy, man. I don't need full disclosure about everything.

It was a Tumblr person, but to be fair I'm on Tumblr as well, mostly by necessity, and we were already talking about some other stuff surrounding this topic, which led us into this line of conversation in the first place.

One thing I'm thinking throughout this thread is, "I'm a bisexual woman of color, is that no longer enough? Do I somehow gain fandom legitimacy if I go on at length about, IDK, how much my teeth hurt or something?"

And dude - I'm 20, exactly, and I feel old in fandom. For fuck's sake I've been in fandom for less than a decade. When I got into fandom, NO ONE under the age of 18 revealed their true ages, and revealing a real name or location was a huge no-no, even to your fandom friends. I remember it being a big deal for me and a fandom friend when we told each other our first names and where we lived, and even that was only after we'd known each other for years. And now people plaster it all over their front page? WTF?!

/rant of my own

(In all seriousness, vent away, because I feel your pain.)

ayrt

Man, I'm on fucking tumblr too, and I'm like a self-loathing tumblr user in an entrenched state of denial about it haha. But yeah, this with the no-sharing names or whatevs was exactly how it was done as I was coming up through fandom, and you really only shared the crappy stuff in your life with people whom you knew and were allowed into your fandom space like this little inner sanctum of internet circles. The rest of everybody else got to see your Beastmaster fics and carried on thinking you were a relatively normal person.

Wait hold on. I take it back.

Tumblr culture is awesome, because you get to see who's whiny and/or crazier than a sack of cats before you get to be friends with them, because they plaster it all over their site!

Before, you got to be friends through a fandom venue like a comm and you think they're pretty nice and thoughtful, and then BAM you have someone gibbering and dribbling out of multiple orifices and you're like "THIS IS NOT WHAT I SIGNED UP FOR". Now on tumblr, everyone disclaims their crazy! To the finest detail! So there's no possible way you could mistake them for being even remotely functional.

Oh godbless, tumblr. Shine on you crazy star. Thank you for making it so that normal people know when to flee like the dickens. :D

I am trying and failing to embrace Tumblr - failing mostly because I still don't get it and I have little patience for Tumblr bullshit, so I end up mostly popping in once every few days and that is apparently not how you do Tumblr. There's also my general refusal to bog down my browser with add-ons, which are apparently necessary to make the damn site work in the first place which - what? -_-

So there's no possible way you could mistake them for being even remotely functional.

One of the things that boggles my mind most are kids, high school and college, who will spend hours and hours a day on Tumblr and then whine when their parents cut down their Internet access time because their grades started slipping. Please note, cut down, not cut off - these kids can still spend hours a day on Tumblr, it's just a few hours less because, y'know, school is kind of important? I get complaining about the situation, no one likes their funtimes being sliced away, but acting as if your family is oppressive and tyrannical because of that is just plain...wtf. Especially when everyone else starts to sympathize and end up effectively encouraging these kids to become total failures because of some mystical special snowflake status I have yet to understand.

And yeah, I probably should have seen this coming from this particular friend from miles away. She's friends with someone who once insisted that I must be lying about the fact my father generally gives me some spending money for school because I also do side-jobs for extra cash. Apparently, it doesn't make sense that a college student - who's previously worked two jobs at once and who expects to be living on her own in a few years - would want to start taking steps towards self-sufficiency, however small those steps may be for now. Also, the fact that my dad will ask me what I need it for if I ask for extra money is some kind of unruly obstacle meant to guilt trip me into being under his tyrannical financial thumb or something. /still doesn't get it

I told that person that I considered my life pretty easy compared seeing as, while I would like to work for my money, I don't have to yet...and then I flat out said that if she considers my life to be difficult based on what I'd said, then her life was probably easy as fuck and involved living on clouds or something and that she was going to be screwed when she hit the grown-up world.

I think I did myself good in stopping that friendship before it could start. Apparently, though, I should have kept pruning.

Edited (Coding fail) 2013-12-03 11:58 (UTC)

Do people do that a lot? dang

I'm not exactly a fandom veteran, but I've only told like 3 or 4 people I met in fandom my real name

ETA: I also really agree about tumblr, if maybe not for the same reasons (though I do agree with your reasons now that I think about them, but I think it's more a choice than anything - I still don't reveal my name or other personal info on my tumblr) but I wish fandom weren't localized there :/

Edited 2013-12-03 03:40 (UTC)

"an eyeful of the latest installment of your misbehaving vagina and how that makes you feel."

This post is gold, jsyk.

I think this might be the best post of all time.

"I don't give a shit about your dyspepsia or your confused state of genderfluid cishet socially anxious ethnicity."

Hahaha, this is fabulous!

ahahaha I love this rant

I feel you. I used to f-lock EVERYTHING. I still kinda do, on DW, twitter, Facebook and whatnot. I HAVE tumblr, but I hate going on it unless I get bored and want to go through fandom tags. I skip all the personal posts from people clearly seeking attention (I like to mope silently, I think it's weird for strangers on the Internet to be overly sympathetic but whatever), and I don't even read bios. Ever. I'm just really tired of seeing why everyone thinks they're a special snowflake.

Even when I skip all the personal crap on Tumblr there's always some SJW bullshit or other. But that's a whole other rant.

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