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⌈ Secret Post #2529 ⌋

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[Babylon 5, Art by A-gnosis]

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[HGTV]

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[Boy Meets World]

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[Doctor Who, "Day of the Doctor"]

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[Battlestar Galactica]

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[Brian Cox, Jim Al-Khalili]

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[Doctor Who]

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[Top Gun]

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[Once Upon a Time in Wonderland]

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Well, they're still together so it worked for them.

But totally understand what you're saying - Topanga probably should have gone to Yale. In real life, that would have been a really stupid decision.

I see nothing wrong with getting married in college, though.

Being married on college is normally a bad idea for financial reasons.

Good point.

However, just like with having a baby there's never any perfect financial moment to get married. I got married in the last semester of undergrad and we're coming up on 13 years married. It can sometimes be a bad financial decision, but especially for people who live together before they get married there's often no appreciable financial difference. I also found that it was easier to live cheaply at the beginning of my marriage because we were both so used to being poor students. I remember being blown away and excited about my grad school assistantship and now it seems like such a ludicrously tiny amount of money. LOL

But everyone's experience is different.

I know so many people (including my parents) who got married right after college, which age- and finances-wise is practically the same thing as getting married during college. Weirdly, I don't know a single person who got married during college. If I knew someone who did, I'd probably wonder "why the rush?" but not get judgey about it.

I know a few people who got married during college. There were mostly two reasons. One, the girl got pregnant or two, the guy was in the military and they got married before he deployed.

well for us we already been living together for 2 years and we knew we were going to get married. we already had a joint bank account and all of the sorts of things that married couples do when they consolidated their lives. we knew we were going to grad school and we knew that we would be going hundreds of miles away to grad school. both sets of parents live in basically the same area and we knew it would be a lot easier to plan and conduct a wedding when everyone was living in the same place then it would be to wait until we were living 500 miles away and having to do everything by phone because the internet was not really a viable option then.

Edited 2013-12-06 01:44 (UTC)

I just said normally, not always. Where I am* it's normally best to get a bit of stability at a good job after graduating before getting married. This isn't the case for everyone. I have one friend who married early at 21. But it worked for her. (Though she did have a lot of parental support.) I only meant in a lot of cases where I'm from. Sorry.

*An expensive area.

oh no I didn't mean to imply that you said anything wrong just offering another perspective that's all. I think there's a lot of sound financial sense in many cases in waiting to get married.

Oh yeah, no, I didn't mean to sound defensive. Agh, I'm bad at this.

no you're not or if you are I am too. :) I have had a truly terrible day and I keep worrying that I'm coming across as really bitchy.

Nooooooo, you're cool. Not bitchy at all. Don't worry. You're so great. I like you.

I like you too. You can be president of our mutual admiration society. I will bring snacks and drinks.

We can be co-presidents and have a huge potluck and dance.

I love dancing. Now that I am old and we live in the middle of nowhere, there is no dancing. *sad sad* LOL

I always look forward to when we visit our friends in New Orleans because then we have dancing.

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How do you figure? I mean, it's one of the few ways you can apply for financial aid as an independant if you're under 25. That's a pretty good deal if your parents have enough money that it's ruining your chances of getting aid--and Corey's parents were pretty well off iirc.

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Corey's parents were pretty well off iirc

Ehhhh, not really. His dad worked in a grocery store for a while until he owned a sporting goods store. I don't recall them ever really experiencing a lot of hardships, but I remember a few episodes where they talked about money being a bit tight. Still, they were comfortable

Yeah, I was mostly going off of their (rather big and nice) house and the tensions Cory and Shawn had over their class differences.

~~it's been a decade since i watched this show so my memory is probably unreliable~~

Mostly because where I am people have big ass weddings that cost a shitton. Add that to your student loans and you're shooting yourself in the foot. On top of that, many start having babies very soon after getting married because that's the mentality. You're married > have kids. And kids cost a shitton too. Lastly, money management is the leading reason for divorce where I am. All of the above happens and then three years or less later they two have ended up divorced and no longer can apply for the financial benefits of marriage.

Oh yeah. All that is a recipe for a disaster many times. We were really lucky that I had no student loans (my husband does but we have almost entirely paid them off; we'll finish this year!! Yay!). Our wedding was really inexpensive (but super nice; we have friends who are florists, caterers, photographers and musicians who were very generous with their time/skills and my dress either cost 150$ or 300$, I can't remember which. I love Say Yes to the Dress, but every time I hear the price tags on those dresses it makes me cringe. LOL

And we totally did have our first kid in the first couple years of our marriage which was hard and in retrospect probably not a decision I'd make again (the timing, not the kiddo).

On snap, I'm happy that all worked out for you. That's so great.

I understand.

The price tags on Say Yes to the Dress are ridiculous. My sister got married only a couple of years ago, I accompanied her to a bunch of bridal stores and I don't see why anyone should ever have to pay more than a thousand for a dress.

My sister's was about $600 and it was GORGEOUS.

We are in complete agreement. :)

To me, $600 is ridiculous, too. Mine cost about $70 (1985, true). Then again, it wasn't "A Wedding Dress".

Yeah, the Yale thing didn't bother me as much at the time because I was in middle school and twu wub/friendship forever, but thinking about it now... it's a bad choice. But while I don't necessarily think all couples should marry in college, it works for some people.

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