[ SECRET POST #2538 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2538 ⌋

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Re: saying goodbye to my grandfather

[(Anonymous)]

I've had to "say goodbye" a fair few times and I can tell you everything you wrote is ok. Even if it felt hollow to you, just hearing from a relative (however estranged) can be a great comfort. Don't worry about your relatives thinking you crapped out the letter - guarantee you they're ALSO having a hard time sorting out what they feel and finding the right words to say. Everyone grieves differently - there's people who won't find a single word to say but will be there with silent support, there's people who can't STAND to talk about it and disappear until they deal with it on their own, there's people who channel all the feelings into activity... and, honestly, nobody will have the emotional energy in this situation to judge your letter.

Also, please know it's OK to feel the anger and the grudges you're feeling. One thing I did that helped a lot when someone I had VERY mixed feelings for passed away was to get out two separate pads and spend a bit of time writing down all my grudges and anger on one and all the positive memories or associations on the other. Then I burnt the negative one. It can be cathartic to just get it all down and out (or imagine yelling it - even REALLY yell if you have the privacy).