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Welllllllllll...I would not consider it them waiting to have a baby.

Well, waiting in the sense they were doing other things in life, I guess?

I also think John and Mary's relationship and marriage was handled in a really lovely way, and I'm no big fan of Sherlock at all.

IA, I really like John and Mary and am glad Mary is sticking around. The Sign of Three is actually one of my favorite Sherlock episodes; the wedding was lovely and I like how natural John and Mary are together.

It probably helps that the actors are IRL partners... They're both good actors, no doubt, but I think there's definitely some genuine affection coming through.

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elaminator - 2014-01-30 14:07 (UTC) - Expand

I wonder which one of them doesn't want to tie the knot IRL- probably both.

I honestly loved how they did the Watson/Mary wedding and how Mary played off Sherlock. Very fun to watch.

Me too. I loved the episode.

It's great, except you really shouldn't wait until 40 to have a baby unless you're a movie star with access to lots of doctors. I'm 37 and I waited because I wanted to see the world and do wonderful things. Now I can't have a baby.

Can't argue with biology.

There's a thing called adoption.

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lol i was just thinking that. it's fine to wait to have a baby. but generally not a good idea to wait to have them in your 40s, let alone plan it that way.

I wish I couldn't relate. :(

I'm sorry that happened to you! My dad was your age when he had me (and yeah it's different for guys, I know), my mom a bit younger, but still in her 30's. Personally I've always it was really nice to have parents who had lives before me, and were pretty settled by then. I know it comes with some risks, but then to me it was always nice to see mature couples represented in a youth-obsessed TV landscape, especially since it was not the reality of my parents, or most people around me.

I realize there are boundaries to biology - personally I just always felt it's better not to have a kid than the have one and resent them for tying you down. Anyway, I'm in my 30's by now, too, and nowhere near ready to have kids, which I know means I probably never will have them. And I think I'm getting to a point where I'm okay with that.I hope you can find happiness in other ways, anon. And I hope you saw the world, did wonderful things, and will do more.

Re: OP here

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mimi-sardinia.livejournal.com - 2014-01-29 08:37 (UTC) - Expand

It's hard but not impossible unless you had a low egg count or hitting menopause. IIRC, you have on average 30% chance to get preggers in your late 30s. Every person is different.

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(Anonymous) - 2014-01-29 05:57 (UTC) - Expand

If it makes you feel any better, my mom had me when she was 38. I was an unexpected surprise.

I'm sorry that happened to you, but it's not impossible for everyone.
My mom was 44 when she had me and she didn't have access to lots of doctors. Yet there weren't issues.

My mother had me and my siblings at 39, 41 and 43 (me at 43) - after being told that she wouldn't be able to have children. Strange things happen, anon. But I am sorry to hear that.

Welp, I'm 37 and started IVF treatment just yesterday so I'm crossing my fingers! Not doing it cos of definite infertility, but cos I've run out of/am sick of the options for private arrangements for decent sperm donors and have some money and my govt subsidises it. I'm sorry you definitely can't :( :( If I can't I'll just have to live with it. My partner already has a kid, so there's that.

In my case, I wasted my 20s and early 30s getting a degree I'll never use in a field I ended up hating. I wasn't even thinking about kids back then. If you'd asked me, I would have sworn I never wanted children. Now I do. And now it's too late. :(

I just wish I could find a way to stop regretting.

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This won't make you feel better, but infertility at 37 is relatively uncommon (it's around 16%, while infertility rates from 20-29 are around 8-12%, for comparison). This rises sharply towards one's 40s, of course, but my own mother had me at 37 - and her sister started her family at 39, with three kids. Our stories are just anecdotes, but statistically speaking, waiting until 37 won't be a death sentence for babies for the vast majority of women. (45, on the other hand, absolutely will be barring medical intervention.)

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In this picture it looks like they're throwing confetti at that poor girl in the background lol

I don't really have anything specific to say about the secret other than...i thought the 'wedding' was *so* incredibly pretty and tasteful. I know, i know - tv fantasy no budged wedding, but still - so! pretty!

(Anonymous) - 2014-01-29 02:07 (UTC) - Expand

Huh, I hadn't thought about that angle before, but now that I think of it, I completely agree. Very cool. :)

It is possible to have a life and adventures after marriage...