[ SECRET POST #2583 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2583 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

You're not being whiney or entitled at all, op. You absolutely have the right not the be harassed or made to feel uncomfortable. Those dudes are assholes.

Could you put up a post saying that you don't want messages like that, or could you and your friends maybe join together to either draw more attention to how unacceptable it is, or, if you feel the problem is big enough, make a blog where you post skeevy asks for public condemning? Something like that might deter these guys.

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(Non OP)

In my experience, doing that can actually make the harassment worse. Ignoring them though, makes that sooner or later they get bored of the lack of answer.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, sometimes ignoring it will work, kind of the same rationale as "don't feed the trolls".

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ayrt

Yeah, that did occur to me, and I was a bit hesitant when writing my comment. Sometimes bad situations need to be called out, and sometimes it's better if they're ignored. Obviously op knows her situation better than me, and it sounds like she's picked ignoring; if she did want to address it though, I was trying to think of ways she might be able to.

The comments obviously bother her, and one of the ways I know of to deal with harrassent safely is in a group, away from the site of the problem, like the hellisokcupid tumblr, for eg, where horrible messages from dickheads are turned into something women can come together and laugh at, rather than be alone and upset/offended by.