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⌈ Secret Post #2596 ⌋

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[Star Trek: The Next Generation]

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[The Croods]

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[Elementary]

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[Final Fantasy XIII]

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[SCP Foundation]

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[Philip Seymour Hoffman]

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[Twin Peaks]

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[Richard Armitage]

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[Reign]

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[The Hobbit]

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[Hunger Games]

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[Don't Hug Me I'm Scared]

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[Teen Wolf]

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[Panic! at The Disco/Dallon Weekes]

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"definitely something else going on with your relationship that's manifesting in weird ways"

I think this might be the case, but don't know how to address it. No, normally he does not suck the joy out of me, he just did that weekend. Same with the jealous thing. He pretty much never showed signs of being jealous before, which makes it all the more weird.

All in all most things about the fight were atypical (except the fact that most our fights were over seemingly stupid shit like this, so I think they're generally a front for other discontentment).

What you said earlier about needing emotional and intellectual stimulation from more than one person sounds very relevant to the whole OMG YOU LED ME TO BELIEVE YOU LIKED BOARD GAMES, YOU PROMISE-BREAKER MEANIE BUTT! thing.

Either way, that outburst was... special. And not in a good way. It's one thing to be slightly immature, that kind of behavior would've been embarrassing for anyone over age 7. If this dude can't work out his problems without the smokescreen of "board games" when he means "emotional intimacy" or "sex", then he's not mature enough to be in a relationship, period.

I'm going to try and be as objective as I can, but as someone who has been in a frighteningly similar situation to your "bad weekend"...

He's feeling insecure, and it manifested itself as jealousy and accusations that you broke a promise.

This was at the ten year mark in my relationship. You know what I ended up doing to appease him? Cut myself off from all the friends I had made. Made myself as available to him as possible.

However, our lives were already diverging. I was continuing to grow, mature, and become independent. He was becoming more immature and dependent as the years went by. I wanted to make things work, so I sacrificed and sacrificed and sacrificed...

And in the end? Just a few months shy of 16 years into the relationship, he met and fell in love with a co-worker twenty years his junior, and that was it. He wasn't even open to the possibility of an open relationship, even though he knew I'm polyamorous (but had been monogamous during this relationship because that's what I agreed to), because even though HE could dick around, he didn't want to share me. (WTF?)

I'm single now, and I'm happier than I've ever been.

If you two can somehow work it out in a way that's healthy for both of you, I wish you joy, but this is sending up red flags to me.

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