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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2014-02-14 07:03 pm

[ SECRET POSt #2600 ]


⌈ Secret Post #2600 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Lilo and Stitch]


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[Panic! at the Disco]


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Re: Advice?

(Anonymous) 2014-02-15 01:44 am (UTC)(link)
how old are you?

Re: Advice?

(Anonymous) 2014-02-15 01:45 am (UTC)(link)
SA - sorry, I didn't mean that to sound mean! I was just asking because imo if you are legally an adult you should be able to put your foot down and do what you want.

Re: Advice?

(Anonymous) 2014-02-15 01:50 am (UTC)(link)
NP. I am an adult, but family guilt is a hell of a thing as I told anon below.

Re: Advice?

(Anonymous) 2014-02-15 01:52 am (UTC)(link)
I guess you either have to fight it or suck it up and go then, sorry.

Re: Advice?

(Anonymous) 2014-02-15 01:53 am (UTC)(link)
DA

You need to learn how to shut that down. It's hard, I know, but if you don't put a stop to it then you'll end up doing whatever they want and miserable and letting others control your life.

Think of it as how you would handle a toddler - they'll put up a fuss and it'll be miserable for awhile as they learn to respond to "no" but if you never teach them then you'll just be in for even more of a rough road.
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Re: Advice?

[personal profile] skippydelicious 2014-02-15 02:16 am (UTC)(link)
Yep, keep letting family guilt you into crap and you'll be doing forever more. Every family has that one doormat who drops everything for everyone elses enjoyment. Don't be that guy, delegate that one to one of the younger kids.

Re: Advice?

(Anonymous) 2014-02-15 05:16 am (UTC)(link)
"Family guilt is a hell of a thing" is an excuse, though. It's something your family has convinced you to believe so that you don't think you have any choices, but you do. You can say no. Things might be awkward if you do, but you know what? Things are already awkward, because your family wants you to lose a week's wages and spend it packed like sardines in a small cabin. Either way, you're... well, not winning. You can choose to not-win and stay home and earn money.

Giving in seems easier in the short run, but it only makes things harder for you longterm. Your family gets used to manipulating you via guilt, it gets harder to fight it, and the protest from them will be more vehement because you've always given in. You said you're an adult. You can choose to exercise an adult's ability to decide what they want to do for their vacation.