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First of all, hi. I've been more or less exactly where you are now. TMI story time!

Hymens are confusing little bastards. I was very sure mine was gone, because I was a gymnast and a horse rider in my early years and because I had masturbated (lots!) and felt nothing that I thought could be a hymen.
Then I used a toy that was more... realistically proportioned? I did everything I normally do to prepare for penetration. Got comfy, got lube, started with fingers, but when I tried to use my new toy it was like it just wouldn't go in. So I pushed a little harder and it sort of slid in all at once, but it hurt. I really really hurt. When I went to the bathroom to clean up there was a small amount of blood.

I was sort of dreading trying it again after this, but I gave myself a pep talk. Anyway, it was a lot easier this time, just the normal kind of stretch instead of a sharp pain. That's how I kind of figure that the resistance and the pain and blood was hymen-related.

So, my advice would be not to put pressure on yourself. When you feel ready and comfortable to try again, either on your own or with a partner, just take things slowly, don't be afraid to use lube (it's not just for men or anal), and don't try to push anything all the way in in one go (I find it easier to go a little way in and then a little way back a few times first to give yourself a chance to stretch). The first time I had sex, I suggested we use lube and one of my toys first so that I wouldn't be in pain, and he told me he had been worried about hurting me and thought it was a good idea (yay communication!).

As for anal, don't give up on your to-do list just yet! One bad experience doesn't mean everything new you try will be bad. I'd advise a bit more research and maybe a few solo missions before trying it with a partner, but it can be really good.

That's like half my experience right there. I never felt anything whilst masturbating or just exploring, myself, and I did some gymnastics and horseback riding as a kid, so I figured I probably tore it and didn't notice or remember. And then this happened.

I...don't really have any toy realistically proportioned to work with, and may not be able to get one (or rather, get one I can hide it from my family), but I'll definitely have to try. Though I definitely have the lube down, we have a lot of that (and were using plenty, hence my confusion).

Thank you for the advice. :) I don't suppose you have any advice for the anal? That sounded a lot like something we'd both be into, and I would like for that adventure to go a little more smoothly than this one went. :)

You're welcome! :)

It's a pain hiding toys from people you live with. Mine are in a fake book with a mini safe thing inside it.

I do indeed have some advice for anal. More TMI ahead! Probably the first thing I would recommend is a shower. Not just for washing and feeling clean but it's nice to relax your body under the hot water before you start. Sometimes it's nice to masturbate or have my partner play with me beforehand because skipping straight to the prep feels kind of clinical and unsexy to me.

I use a different lube for anal than I do for other things. I think the one I have is silicon-based, and it's fine with the brand of condoms we use but that's something to double check before you purchase. I know oil-based can lead to breakage. I switched because the water-based one wasn't thick (idk how to describe it?) enough for anal.

A weird thing I don't hear much about is I prefer to use gloves when I'm fingering myself or my partner is fingering me back there. The skin feels very thin and sensitive inside and the thought of nails scraping me there makes me nervous. The important thing to do is try to relax. Do not force your way past the initial clenching. It's a natural response. Just touch around the area until you feel ready to try again. When I start, I find it's less painful when I 'bear down' or push against my finger slightly with the muscles there, then work myself open slowly until I feel like I can add another finger.

Probably don't aim for penetrative sex the first time you do this. Just explore at your own pace. I've heard some people find it quite easy but it took maybe a month or two until I wanted more. The position I found most comfortable was spooning on our sides with his leg between mine. We tried a few others, but this and doggy are better for me. Girl on top gives you more control, but I found the penetration too deep.

Good luck with your sex adventure! Don't hesitate if you have more questions. :)

Extra! VERY NOT SAFE FOR WORK VIDEO. CONTAINS REAL LIFE BUTTS AND PEENS. :

http://www.loveyourcondom.co.nz/great-sex-safe-sex/how-to-have-anal-sex/

It's the video I watched before I tried it. Yes, it is intended for gay men. Unfortunately I could never locate an informative how-to thing for women or heterosexual couples that didn't have terrible cosmo advice.

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