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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Being asexual doesn't mean you can't appreciate how people look. Sometimes there are just someone who is so gorgeous that they take your breath away, no matter your sexuality.

I'm asexual too. Back when I was in AVEN forums there was a jokey thread of people we'd turn sexual for (in other words people we found irresistibly attractive). I'm pretty sure I answered young Patti Smith.

/my 2cents

[(Anonymous)]

(not OP)

It took me a while to realize I was asexual because of that. There are lots of people I love to look at photoshoots of, I could get starry-eyed at their attractiveness all day, but as soon as I try to imagine having sex with them it's like why, why would I do that, please just pose prettily some more.

[(Anonymous)]

OP

Yes, this exactly! I mean I certainly wouldn't refuse some cuddle time, but sex, meh.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't really get the idea that being asexual means you can't recognize when someone is attractive?

Although I see it more as aesthetic appreciation, I guess.

[(Anonymous)]

nayrt

It's a common misconception people hold. "How can you find someone attractive if you claim to be asexual????"

[(Anonymous)]

The same way I, as a heterosexual woman, can think that another woman is beautiful. It's an aesthetic.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, this. And people don't normally look at photos of attractive men or women, and immediately imagine having sex with them. Saying that is a standard response of someone who is not asexual, is not really accurate.

[(Anonymous)]

Uh no one is disagreeing? Anon was saying that a lot of people mistakenly (key word mistakenly) think that asexuals can't recognize attractiveness in people, when they can.

[diet_poison]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT
I don't get it either. Like. We have eyes.

Yes, I think it's more of an aesthetic appreciation too. At least for me. I can sometimes recognize "sexy" people. If they do it for me is an entirely different question.

[(Anonymous)]

I've always wondered that too. Like a straight man can't find another man objectively attractive without needing to make a commentary on his sexuality? Oddly, this doesn't seem to apply to women who find other women beautiful.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, actually almost every time I've had or heard conversations about finding men attractive or at least good-looking, straight men were peddling back saying "How could I tell if he looks good? I'm not gay".

It's call aesthetics, guys. A question of proportions and other things, meshed with personal taste. No need to feel threatened in your manliness when you're asked to contribute to a conversation about a man's looks.

You don't need to want to sex a building to say that some architecture piece looks awesome.

[(Anonymous)]

OP

Well I don't just find him objectively attractive. Like if we were in the same room I'd throw myself at his feet like he was a god. This isn't a feeling I have for other just "attractive" people.

[dreemyweird]

I'm an asexual and I have never found anyone "attractive" (I see people as ugly/non-ugly and interesting/uninteresting, where "ugly" means "has obvious physical deformities, is morbidly obese, or has a really weird skin colour" and just about everyone is interesting), but I don't think it has anything to do with my sexuality. Yeah, this is a weird idea.

[greenvelvetcake]

or has a really weird skin colour

Are we talking a really unhealthy looking skin color or, say, blue? Because if you're calling Nightcrawler ugly, we are going to have words.

(those words will be "nu-uh!")

[dreemyweird]

No, only when it's unhealthy-looking. There isn't much chance that blue is going to look healthy on an actual living human being, but I'm absolutely fine with blue-, green-, or purple-skinned fictional humans. I actually like these designs a lot.

We are not going to have words, I fear :)

+1

[laila]

Just because I don't want to eat the cake, doesn't mean I'm not going to take a (long and very appreciative) look at the menu.