[ SECRET POST #2615 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2615 ⌋

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Comments

[inkdust]

Honestly, I'm of the the belief that how you feel about anyone or anything else will have basically nothing to do with how you feel about this person. There's no way for you to figure this out except by spending more time with them and examining your feelings honestly and carefully. Don't rush anything.

Do you imagine having sex with them? And you're not sure if the idea is appealing or not? Do you two ever hug? How do you feel about that?

Basically, this is about this person and not about porn or anyone else, so focus on them and focus on how you feel and don't worry about figuring it out right away.

[(Anonymous)]

OP

Yes, I like hugging them. I'm pretty sure about my feelings, what I'm worried about is my reaction when the pants come off.

I fell for their personality. With clothes on, I find them kind of hot, but that only came after I started to like them for their personality.

I would normally talk to them about this, but they've had bad experiences and a fear of rejection. What if I tell them how I feel, things progress and then I have to say "Sorry, your genitals put me off. I can't do this."? I don't want to hurt them.

[inkdust]

I get that. To be completely honest with you, I was in a relationship for a long time with someone I loved for her personality, but was never wholly attracted to, and we both suffered for it. That's an incompatibility that can happen. That's the biggest reason I say to take some time. But if your uncertainty doesn't lessen with time, I think that's the point where you do have to sit down with them and be honest about both your feelings and your doubt. You can frame it very clearly in terms of your own orientation and not about them - in fact their awesomeness is what put you in this position. Be honest about your concerns too - you're afraid of hurting them if your physical attraction doesn't work out the way you hoped. But after you've taken some time, if you remain uncertain, I would explain your situation and then leave it up to them. I don't think there's anything else you can do, unless you just keep it all in and continue on as friends. It sounds like you want more than that.

[(Anonymous)]

OP

You're probably right. Thank you. I didn't really think there were any other options, but decided to ask fandomsecrets anyway on the off chance that someone somehow had a super special magical idea.

[inkdust]

I wish I did have a super special magical idea for you. But I wish you luck!