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Do you feel like this is impacting your life negatively? Is it causing you to not be able to do things in your daily routine? Is it affecting your ability to interact socially?

From what you've said, it just seems like you're an introvert, anon. And that's okay. Social interaction is exhausting for introverted people, and there is no rule about how much time you need to spend around people to have fulfilling friendships.

I don't think it impacts my life negatively, per se. I just put off doing things a lot. Scheduling appointments is obnoxious, and shopping for necessities is a pain and I put it off until I absolutely can't anymore - but it's not like I'd put my health or hygiene at risk.

When I had bad depression, I was similar. Didn't want to do anything, quit all the extracurricular stuff I did - but then, I also spent a lot of time beating myself up, both emotionally and physically. I feel like now I lack the sadness and have more of a sense of self worth, but the lack of motivation to do stuff is still there. It bothers me that I don't have more friends, and occasionally I have bouts of sadness about that (I think residual insecurity from when I was shy and friendless throughout early gradeschool), but I do have a couple good friends so it's not like I'm totally alone.

I must just be an introvert. But I just feel like, I'm a 24 year old girl and I need a new outfit or two, why is it so much effort to go out shopping for clothes or whatever. People are supposed to enjoy this stuff! :-/

Thanks for the comment.

Hahaha oh even extroverted people find scheduling appointments to be obnoxious, don't you worry about that.

The most important thing I hope you take away from this is there is no rule about actually enjoying what you are "supposed" to enjoy. Plenty of people don't like shopping for clothes, and just because you are a 20-something girl, doesn't mean you automatically must like doing stereotypical 20-something girl things.

The only thing I would caution you about is that if you have had depression in the past to be sure that if you do start to reach a point where you feel like you're getting lethargic to the point where you can't perform daily tasks anymore, you go back to your psychiatrist and do something about it; unfortunately, introversion and depression are often fairly highly correlated.

However! If, as of now, you say you're feeling okay then I'm inclined to agree that you're probably feeling ok. You just might be a bit confused about the life experience you actually want vs. the life experience social stereotypes say you should want.

Live how you want to live, OP!

I just put off doing things a lot. Scheduling appointments is obnoxious, and shopping for necessities is a pain and I put it off until I absolutely can't anymore - but it's not like I'd put my health or hygiene at risk.

I do exactly the same. Seems normal to me.

the lack of motivation to do stuff is still there

I've never had it and used to worry that I wasn't normal. But everyone's different. Think about it this way: you have so much more time for your solitary hobbies.

why is it so much effort to go out shopping for clothes or whatever. People are supposed to enjoy this stuff!

Many people don't enjoy that stuff. It's really a huge con. Clothes shops and the women's magazine industry spends a lot of money trying to convince us that it's fun to spend. Why would they need all the ads and expensive shop fittings and expensive women's magazine ads if shopping were actually inherently fun? Wouldn't we just go out and do it without the advertising?

Shopping as a leisure activity is a hobby like any other, same as birdwatching or writing fanfic. Some people are going to like it and others not.

Really, you're not alone.

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