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fandomsecrets2014-03-06 07:01 pm
case) wrote in fandomsecrets2014-03-06 07:01 pm
[ SECRET POST #2620 ]
⌈ Secret Post #2620 ⌋
Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.
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[My Mad Fat Diary]
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[Stargate Atlantis]
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[Andromeda]
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[True Detective]
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[Samurai Flamenco]
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[Star Trek: DS9]
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[Supernatural]
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[Wild Adapter]
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[The Bletchley Circle]
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11. [ns]
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[Junior Prom - Prelinger Archives Video]
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Notes:
Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 015 secrets from Secret Submission Post #374.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.
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Come on, go through any fandom comm and count the number of times you see someone who has previously passionately criticized Nice Guy-ism only to turn around and say that Girl/Guy X can "do so much better" than Girl/Guy Y, because falling in love with a specific individual isn't a thing, only grabbing for whoever is as far up some subjectively-codified social ladder as you can reach is.
(The biggest reason this phrase makes me batshit is its reverse implication -- if you have major character flaws, you should settle for someone who treats you like shit.)
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(Anonymous) 2014-03-07 04:17 am (UTC)(link)"(The biggest reason this phrase makes me batshit is its reverse implication -- if you have major character flaws, you should settle for someone who treats you like shit.)"
This is closely related to the idea that being in a volatile, dysfunctional, or otherwise unhealthy relationship is better than being single.
"X is the best that Y will ever be able to get, so he/she should just suck it up, because ANYTHING is better than being single." Um, no, no, and no.
"X is a flawed person who has made mistakes or has some less-than-stellar personal attributes, therefore he/she should be grovelingly grateful that ANYONE would deign to be with them." Ugh.