[ SECRET POST #2620 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2620 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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02.
[My Mad Fat Diary]


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03.
[Stargate Atlantis]


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04.
[Andromeda]


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05.
[True Detective]


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06.
[Samurai Flamenco]


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07.
[Star Trek: DS9]


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08.
[Supernatural]


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09.
[Wild Adapter]


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10.
[The Bletchley Circle]


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11. [ns]


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12.
[Junior Prom - Prelinger Archives Video]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 015 secrets from Secret Submission Post #374.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 1 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[chardmonster]

Would it be so terrible if Rae ended up with someone society also finds unattractive?

Or do us ugly people deserve the "cute" people because we're still using that as a gauge of how much someone is worth? Are we just replaying all those fat guy/hot wife sitcoms with the genders reversed?

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[diet_poison]

I think it's nice to show that it's not all about sorting people based on looks/conventional attraction. A lot of people have this conception that hot people will always be paired with hot people and ugly people with ugly people. Same with fat/fat and thin/thin.

[chardmonster]

Oh, I know. And from the little I've seen these two are adorable. It's just that this "I'm so happy she ended up with this cute guy" thing can stray into thinking getting the cute guy is her reward for being a good person.

[diet_poison]

Oh, yeah, true that. That's not how I read the secret but that particular attitude definitely is dumb.

[intrigueing]

Yup.

Come on, go through any fandom comm and count the number of times you see someone who has previously passionately criticized Nice Guy-ism only to turn around and say that Girl/Guy X can "do so much better" than Girl/Guy Y, because falling in love with a specific individual isn't a thing, only grabbing for whoever is as far up some subjectively-codified social ladder as you can reach is.

(The biggest reason this phrase makes me batshit is its reverse implication -- if you have major character flaws, you should settle for someone who treats you like shit.)

[(Anonymous)]

Yes to all of this. I hate this type of attitude, it's disturbing, especially your last point:

"(The biggest reason this phrase makes me batshit is its reverse implication -- if you have major character flaws, you should settle for someone who treats you like shit.)"

This is closely related to the idea that being in a volatile, dysfunctional, or otherwise unhealthy relationship is better than being single.

"X is the best that Y will ever be able to get, so he/she should just suck it up, because ANYTHING is better than being single." Um, no, no, and no.

"X is a flawed person who has made mistakes or has some less-than-stellar personal attributes, therefore he/she should be grovelingly grateful that ANYONE would deign to be with them." Ugh.