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⌈ Secret Post #2622 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Accidental friendzoning - a lament :-(

[diet_poison]

1. you didn't friendzone him. Friendzoning is one of the stupidest concepts ever aplskj;als.

2. If he didn't say, explicitly, that he was interested in you, then it is not your fault for not "picking that up". Communication is a thing for a reason.

Not precluding the possibility of you still getting together! Now that you know you have feelings for him, you can always act on them (as long as they don't interfere with work, of course). Either way, hope it works out.

Re: Accidental friendzoning - a lament :-(

[(Anonymous)]

Thanks.

I get what you mean about the concept, but generally I think people do categorise their relationships to some extent and I saw him as a friend only. Perhaps I've used the wrong term, or a term with the wrong implications.

Re: Accidental friendzoning - a lament :-(

[diet_poison]

eh, but don't you see a lot of people you know as friend-only? it's what I do. It means you don't have romantic interest in them and there's nothing wrong with that.

I get what you're saying - I just think the term "friendzone" has implications that go waaaay beyond a simple "I'm friends with this guy" sentiment. and those implications are generally kind of awful (sexist, etc.) Not for the person doing the "friendzoning" - not at all - but for the people using that term seriously.

Re: Accidental friendzoning - a lament :-(

[(Anonymous)]

What diet_poison said. Treating a guy like a friend is not a horrible thing to do to a guy just because he's a guy. You're not obligated to be constantly on high alert for dudes who might want to date you and it's not a failing of some kind to NOT pick up on possible psychic messages from said dudes.

Never listen to anyone who says friendzoning is a Thing, much less a painful, awful Thing inflicted upon them by heartless women. Those people are jerks.