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⌈ Secret Post #2632 ⌋

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[Game of Thrones]

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[Patrick Stump / Fall Out Boy]

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[Men in Black, Agent Coulson]

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[Twin Peaks]

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[Defenders of Berk/How To Train Your Dragon 2]

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[Lily Allen]

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[Attack on Titan]

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[The Brittas Empire]

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[Panic! at the Disco]

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[Frozen]

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Okay so I'm going through all this nonsense and I have to say- since when do your friends have to be carbon copies of you that have all your same interests?

If you can't find female friends because they're "too girly" and you're "not like other girls" why can't you just look outside yourself for a second and try new things?

Yeah it's fun to have friends that share your interests, but lasting friendships tend to go beyond playing video games or watching tv. Some of my best friends live very different lifestyles then I do but we can still chat and listen to each other because we care and enjoy each other's company.

Don't write off half the population because of some bad experiences you had with a handful of people. Be kind and open minded and you can make friends of all backgrounds. You'd actually be surprised how beneficial it is to have friends who are different.

+1 to this so much. If you can't connect with people who don't share your interests? That's a problem you need to fix.

They don't have to be carbon copies but if you try to hold a long conversation with someone with whom you share literally no interests or values, it's going to degenerate pretty quickly to "how's the weather? mhm. how's class? mhm. looking forward to break? me too" and then there's really nothing else to say.

If you can't hold a conversation about something other than subjects you like, then you have shitty social skills no matter how you slice it.

just because you can doesn't mean it's entertaining or worth your time.

I disagree with your assertion anyway. How do you have a decent conversation about something you don't know anything about?

So talking to people who aren't interested in the same things you are isn't worth your time. Kind of explains everything, don't it?

How do you have a decent conversation about something you don't know anything about?

By asking questions. And listening to the answers. Try it sometime.

Oh, are you my anon-hater?

Hi. I missed you!

You must hate a lot of people who have specific interests and don't really want to spend long periods of time talking about something they have zero interest in. It's not that the fact I'm talking to someone who likes different things is a waste of time, but the conversation itself may be. If someone wants to vent about a bad situation, or needs my help with something, or just say a friendly hello, that is absolutely worth my time. But if someone wants to have a long, detailed conversation with me about, say, football? no, that conversation is not worth my time, however much I may or may not value the individual who wants to have it. I would never expect someone who has zero interest in one of my hobbies to sit there and listen to me talk about it and pretend to be interested for a long period of time. And, believe it or not, there pretty much has to be some basis of common interest (and, thus, the ability to hold a long and still interesting conversation) for me to be able to have more than a casual friendship with someone. I do not think this is unusual.

If the topic is interesting to me, of course I'll ask questions. If I already know it's not - like football - I probably won't because I really do not care about the answers.

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