[ SECRET POST #2642 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2642 ⌋

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[Homestuck]


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[Michelle Lee]


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[Ping Pong the Animation]


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[Lord of the Rings]


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14. [SPOILERS for Pandora Hearts]



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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Is it offensive to feel like I'd rather deal with gender dysphoria than periods? Like, even though I identify as female, to wish I had been born a boy? Full disclosure: I do wish that. Unequivocally. I don't know what gender dysphoria is like, and I know it's awful, but I can't shake the "it can't be worse than this" feeling. That is genuinely how much I hate periods. But I feel like a jackass for thinking it.

[rubbertea]

i don't think you're a jackass. periods are just the worst. all those years of evolution and we get stuck with this shitty unmanageable system of reproduction. it's like mother nature gets off on suffering or something.
i don't want children so when i have painful cramps i feel the urge to demand a hysterectomy right then and there and one day i'm pretty sure i'll just give in and get it done. it's just not worth it.

[tabaqui]

If you don't have money/insurance/whatever issues, and no doctors blocking you, just do it. I had mine out nearly ten years ago - best damn thing i ever did.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, it is. As gross ad periods are, no one has killed themselves because of them yet. With gender dysphoria, on the other hand...

[(Anonymous)]

NAYRT

I've considered it. Of course I'm not saying you're wrong, or that dysphoria is better, I could easily be the only one who's ever seriously thought about killing themselves just to be rid of them, but it's not impossible.

[(Anonymous)]

I'm not sure that you can say for sure that nobody has killed themselves over a period. PMDD for one can induce suicidal thoughts...

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, it's pretty shitty. It's like wishing for cancer because you don't like your curly hair.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think it's fair to judge somebody for how they feel. As long as OP isn't telling MtF people that they should be glad they weren't born female because of periods, I can't fault her for wishing for whatever she happens to wish for.

[(Anonymous)]

It's absolutely fair when they ask a question, to answer it. I'm not going to lie and say "Oh no, OP! It's totally fine! That's not offensive at all."

[(Anonymous)]

It's fair to answer a question, but not, in my opinion, for the answer to be "yes, I judge you for this". However, just as OP can feel how she feels, you're perfectly within your rights to feel how you feel.

[(Anonymous)]

Question: Is this offensive?
Answer: Yes.

How much sugar coating would you like on this answer? I mean, I could just... not answer, and therefore not call OP out on their shitty behavior, but for one, it's shitty, and two, they asked if it was shitty.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think thoughts are the same thing as behaviour. She isn't doing anything, as far as we know, to undermine people with gender dysphoria.

[(Anonymous)]

"This thing here which I have never experienced isn't so bad. Now this, this other thing, that's the actual fucking worst."

[(Anonymous)]

Only she is?? By completely presuming to know what it's like to have gender dysphoria and saying it's preferable to menstruation, she is in fact undermining every trans person ever.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't really see why you compare it to gender dysphoria of all things. Why not just wish you didn't have such a bad period? I think you might be romanticizing gender dysphoria, just a little bit.

[(Anonymous)]

I think OP is saying she wishes she had a man's body, even though she identifies as a woman.

[(Anonymous)]

But why? If it's just the period thing, again, why not wish for a lighter period or no period at all?

[(Anonymous)]

I don't think you're a bad person, OP. You can't help how you feel. I would say it's something to keep mostly to yourself, though. It could easily come off the wrong way.

[(Anonymous)]

I deal with gender dysphoria and I don't really find your thoughts offensive. I'm probably in the minority because ngl the trans community is amazingly easy to offend, but nah I don't think you're a jackass for thinking it. Periods are fucking brutal and awful (I am blessed with dealing with dysphoria *and* awful painful periods. Won the lottery here!)

[(Anonymous)]

I don't really understand this question, but maybe that's because I already deal with both gender dysphoria and periods (the latter of which are mainly only awful because of the former). Are you saying you think you'd rather be a trans woman...?

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah nonny that's pretty shitty thinking. And you even admit, you have no idea what gender dysphoria is like, so you're really talking out of your ass here. Gender dysphoria has gotten people killed, and made people kill themselves, lose friends, lose family, and have their lives torn apart. Periods suck, I know. I had to take medical absences from school until I could get birth control, and even now when I do get periods it's so painful that I have actually passed out. But I'd take that over the gender dysphoria I also experience on a /constant/ basis. Trust me, it is worse than periods. Thankfully, it's something you will never have to experience.

[(Anonymous)]

Is it offensive to feel like I'd rather deal with gender dysphoria than periods?

Not offensive to me and I'm trans. I do think you need to experience gender dysphoria, or at least something similar, to know what you're talking about.

I'm MtF and I have pretty heavy and painful periods, I also suffer from bouts of gender dysphoria. There are a couple of points I'd like to make.
1) Count your blessings, you could have both. Like me and a couple of other commenters.
2) Periods are periodical. Usually I have two weeks of bliss until I ovulate and then slowly but steadily I will go downhill until I hit the four week mark. When I'm lucky I will get my period then and I will have one day of painful cramps. Lately my period has been late and a lot more painful. Boo. But I can talk to this about most other people, I can take painkillers, I can get a hot water bottle, take a nice hot bath, I've just started taking some alternative kind of medicine to help with my PMS and so far it's really helping me.
3) Dysphoria will and can hit me at any time. I have some good days, some bad days, most days are in between. I can't take a painkiller to sooth that kind of pain, it's not something I can discuss with anyone really.
4) Let's say I had a choice to either not experience gender dysphoria or to not have my periods, I'd definitely choose to live with my periods and feel like a woman inside instead of having that feeling that the inside and the outside don't match.
5) I don't know how far you've already gone down the track to do something about your periods, but for me personally vitamin B tablets, evening primrose oil and relaxation methods like mindfulness and yoga have really helped me. Good luck!