[ SECRET POST #2646 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2646 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Free! Iwatobi Swim Club]


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[Love so Life]


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[the last leg]


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[Karen Gillian/Doctor Who]


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[True Detective]


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[Yume Nikki]


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[Black Dagger Brotherhood Series]


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[Mass Effect]


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Comments

OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

I want to explain what brought on all this sudden emotion, even if it will make me look like even worse of a person...I have an acquaintance, or something (friend from my perspective and acquaintance from hers) who just got away from her own abusive situation. She's taking commissions to feed herself...I just skipped the asking for something part, partly because I don't want any art right now and partly because I...okay, I want her to think of me as a friend, and the best way to get people to think that by doing good things for them, right? There's not much else I can do. I'm a sentimental person, she's not, I don't want to creep her out by being like "hi, I care about you kk?"

So I'm jealous. I'm green with envy over her mental strength to do this all for herself, even the commissions mean she has a talent, which I don't. And it hurts. So I came to whine abstractly about it like I used to in my tiny journal when I was 11 where I wrote free verse about how life was awful. If only I knew.

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

If you're a sentimental person, and able to put yourself in her shoes enough that you empathize with her situation (even to the point of feeling envy that you can't demonstrate the qualities you admire in her), then you definitely don't have autism, just so you know. Someone has slapped a label on your forehead, OP, and it sounds to me like it's time to bust out the adhesive remover.

Re: OP addenda

[vethica]

...Are you saying autistic people can't ever empathize or feel jealous of people....????

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

I'm saying OP said "I've been convinced" and combined with saying they have been diagnosed with "several emotional disorders" that raises a lot of red flags to me, that OP's actual run-of-the-mill neuroses (which everyone has, or had when they were younger, and still trying to establish their own identities) have been over-pathologized to the point where OP is literally in a Catch-22 situation...forced into a self-fulfilling prophecy of doom, if you like.

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

SA

*multiple severe emotional disorders (that was the big red flag to me) and add *lack of socialization to "neuroses" above in my original comment. That last one is solely the fault of the Internet/social media taking the place of face-to-face interaction and/or socialization, IMO, and not the result of a "disorder." Again, JMO, and yes, I realize it's an unpopular one with the SJWs.

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

That's not what you said, though, just so you're aware. You said if OP can empathize and feel envy, they "definitely don't have autism." Please be careful of your words.

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

So basically what you're saying is you wanted to vent and have people say something like "man that sucks, I'm sorry" and not come in and offer advice or anything.

Sorry man, maybe next time put a little thing in the first post how you just wanted to vent or look for sympathies? I would have skipped the advice, didn't mean to make your situation worse.

Good luck and stay strong!

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

No, no, you didn't make it worse! I'm always a little better off for saying it all and being heard. I actually expected a lot more hostility, since my whining usually puts people off (why I do it anonymously!) but I got none.

Re: OP addenda

[(Anonymous)]

I've read that getting people to do things for you actually bonds them to you more strongly than doing things for other people does. That's why trying to be the kindest, most accomodating person ever to the one you have a crush on never works. I guess doing we tend to become invested in people we do things for, but it doesn't really go the other way.

I'm not saying you shoud stop doing things for people (but I do think you should stop throwing money around as if you can buy friendship). Ideally, it goes both ways - we all give and take. You should start asking people for things - ask someone to go with you to a movie or a museum, ask someone for a ride, ask someone to pass you that pencil over there... be polite about it, of course, but start being a taker, not just a giver.

Ask your friend for a token piece of art, tell her you really admire what she's done, and ask if she'd be willing to talk about it and maybe discuss your situation a bit.