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Platonic kink is a thing though? As is non-sexual kinks.

kink [kingk]
noun
1. a twist or curl, as in a thread, rope, wire, or hair, caused by its doubling or bending upon itself.
2. a muscular stiffness or soreness, as in the neck or back.
3. a flaw or imperfection likely to hinder the successful operation of something, as a machine or plan: There are still a few kinks to be worked out of the plan before we start production.
4. a mental twist; notion; whim or crotchet.
5. Slang.
a. bizarre or unconventional sexual preferences or behavior.
b. a person characterized by such preferences or behavior.

I guess all of those times I've been tied up or flogged or spanked with my non-sexual platonic partner weren't actually kinky experiences at all! Nor was the petplay my asexual friend engages in with their asexual partner!

You are so intensely embarrassing.

You are roleplaying (you know like Larpers do), you don't have a kink. Unless you think people that dress up like wizards are also participating in a kink.

HDU kinkshame people who get off on dressing up like wizards!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ROLL A 20 FOR COMPLETION!

*rolls 3*

Aw, you ejaculated as soon as she got her bra off. :(

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(Anonymous) - 2014-04-15 04:21 (UTC) - Expand

I put on my robe and wizard hat

Ahh, the memories.

Your fanfiction does not count.

You can't just redefine a word to suit yourself and get annoyed when everyone else still uses the dictionary definition. Kinky means it's sexual. Sorry.

Perhaps you were engaging in sexual roleplay in a non-sexual relationship?

If not, find another word.

Humor me, what is a non-sexual kink?

Anything you can think of that is in the kink community but without the sex.

I'm asexual. I like kink. I don't have sex, I do not get aroused, but I have participated in many a kinky adventure. I've been involved in kink clubs where there have been other people participating in kink for reasons other than sexual. There are a lot of 'scenes' that don't have anything to do with sex.

I'm not saying it's popular, I know it's pretty fucking rare, but it does in fact exist.

That's not kink. That's roleplaying or what the fuck ever but it's not kink.

If someone ties you up and whips you and you enjoy the experience and do it intentionally, whether or not your enjoyment is sexual, yes, it's kink. Plenty of people in the kink community experience kink that way. At most play parties I've ever been to, sure, people get aroused, but plenty of people don't, and sex is often not allowed.

Exactly. A lot of kinks don't even involve having sex. Doesn't make the kink suddenly non-sexual.

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(Anonymous) - 2014-04-15 03:04 (UTC) - Expand

But it's really not kink. Kink is inherently an expression of sexuality, full stop. An activity, even if it's one very commonly associated with sexual expression, is not a kink when done completely divorced from some component of that purpose.

And it sounds like you're saying that "having sex" is required for something to be sexual, when it's not. Those people getting aroused, even if not having sex, are expressing themselves sexually and experiencing some level of sexual gratification from the activities they are engaging in. THAT is what makes it kink. Without the arousal (or expectation of or hope for arousal) as the underlying purpose in doing it, it's just...an activity.

darkmanifest - 2014-04-15 03:46 (UTC) - Expand

Wouldn't those just as easily be classified as "non-typical things you do for fun"? If your aim isn't to get aroused, why is it important that you use a word associated with arousal?

Because if it's not at least somehow connected to sex then how can they claim sexuality-based oppression?

(Anonymous) - 2014-04-14 23:49 (UTC) - Expand

Okay, now I'm just really genuinely confused. I thought that the definition of a kink (in fandon context) was something from which one derives sexual pleasure. If it's not sexual, then what is the definition of "kink" that you are using?

They're making up their own definition of kink.

Which is fine. But they shouldn't be surprised when no one else agrees.

Just because you're not aroused and you don't have sex at the end doesn't mean a kinky practice suddenly isn't sexual. There are loads of kinks in which no sex is involved.

I'm not saying you're not asexual and you haven't done these things, because I totally believe that's possible. But just because you're asexual, the kink doesn't become so.

A kink is sexual. You do not have to have sex while doing them, but you have to be sexually aroused by them for it to be a kink. You may enjoy doing these things, but unless you are getting aroused by them, it is not a kink of yours. It is just something you enjoy. For whatever non-sexual reason.

I think that would be less of a kink and more of a shtick.

No it isn't. Kink is for non-normative sexual behavior. That is the only definition (beyond "twist or bend in a rope, chain, back, etc").

You can maybe call what you are doing a hobby. Or just "something I enjoy doing", but it is not a "platonic kink".

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