[ SECRET POST #2696 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2696 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 1 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ], [ 1 - posted twice ].
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Comments

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I'm really afraid that I have depression and I don't know what to do about it.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[sarillia]

I was in that boat a few years ago. It's not a fun place to be. Can you talk to a doctor about it?

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I would like to. I'm just afraid I won't be able to afford it, since moving is going to cost me between $3000-$4000. I'm also nervous about mentioning it to my mom, even though she's clinically depressed too... I don't want to worry her.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[sarillia]

I can relate. My mom has depression too. On the one hand, it's been great that she understands what I'm going through, but on the other, I always feel like I'm going to add to her problems when I'm in trouble and want to go to her. She's been really supportive though.

I wish money wasn't a concern for people who want to see a doctor.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, exactly. I know my mom would be super supportive but I also know she'd worry endlessly and wish she was here to help me in person, which would cause her more stress she doesn't need. I know she'd tell me to go see a doctor, though, so maybe I'll tell her once I muster up the courage to go.

Yeah... though, all things considered, it probably won't be as expensive as it is in the US. The page of the therapist I'm considering says they try to see patients "as infrequently as optimal care will allow (usually once or twice a month)". I could probably swing that.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[sarillia]

I hope the therapist works out for you, or you find someone else who will. <3

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

talk to a mental health professional

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I will do my best. Thank you.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Go see a doctor. I know it can seem like the scariest thing, but they will be able to help you figure out what's going on with you and what the best course of action is, because that's a decision you can't and shouldn't make by yourself. Get someone you trust to go with you, if that helps - not necessarily into the actual appointment, just to make sure you have that extra push behind you, and help you get home if needs be. Or try a helpline if you want to talk things through with someone neutral. I've used them several times throughout my life and they're incredibly helpful for that.

I hope things work out for you! *hugs*

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

It is surprisingly scary. I didn't think it would be until I started looking at doctors. I've thought about helplines too, but I think it might be easier in person... I'm pretty bad with phones.

I'm starting to realize I've gotta do something, at any rate. I don't want to spend more time lying in bed feeling useless.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I spent years pretending that what I was experiencing weren't depressive episodes. Spoiler alert: that's exactly what they were.

I could have been getting help a long time ago if I'd swallowed my stupid pride and admitted I needed help.

(On affording it: check your options carefully. The ACA has changed the game for a lot of Americans in terms of being able to afford help.)

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I understand. Fear has made me stubborn, I guess. I'm tired of feeling like this, though. Hopefully that will overpower the fear.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

I've been there. Don't do what I did and spend 8 months lying on the floor waiting to feel better; it might not work. I'm glad you came here and asked FS instead; that's already a good first step. Talk to someone. Contact that therapist whose page you've been looking at and see what she has to say. Even if this one is too expensive, you might be able to find others who have sliding scale pay rates, or she might know about some free options for you.

I hope you have better days ahead.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[diet_poison]

Everyone else has already given good advice, so...best of luck, anon. It sucks but it does get better, so much better, with some time and treatment.

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Anon, the important thing is to keep doing something that makes some small positive change in your life. Don't let fandom or gaming or work or whatever become your life. I was very lonely for a while and stuck in a location where I couldn't even leave the house without a great deal of effort (I can't drive and the nearest supermarket was half an hour away). I'm not kidding when I say I buried myself in fandom/fic and nearly failed my course as a result.

Surround yourself with people who can help and don't let yourself be bogged down by the tricks your mind's playing on you. And fwiw I'm not being holier than thug: I know how much effort it takes. Be kind to yourself and take small (but productive) step, OP!

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Anon, the important thing is to keep doing something that makes some small positive change in your life. Don't let fandom or gaming or work or whatever become your life. I was very lonely for a while and stuck in a location where I couldn't even leave the house without a great deal of effort (I can't drive and the nearest supermarket was half an hour away). I'm not kidding when I say I buried myself in fandom/fic and nearly failed my course as a result.

Surround yourself with people who can help and don't let yourself be bogged down by the tricks your mind's playing on you. And fwiw I'm not being holier than thou: I know how much effort it takes. Be kind to yourself and take small (but productive) step, OP!

Re: Nonfandom Secrets/Confessions

[(Anonymous)]

Well, one thing that might help you ease into it, is go to the doctor and get some blood tests done if you can (for iron deficiency, thyroid problems, etc.) to rule out other sources of depression-like symptoms?