[ SECRET POST #2702 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2702 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Is it rude to talk about my overeating problem with people who can barely afford to eat daily?

Context: These people are good friends of mine, we talk about all manner of big issues, so it's not like I'm just talking about my issues to strangers. I'm just not sure if it's okay to talk about THIS issue.

[(Anonymous)]

It's rude. Don't do it. Share some of your food without commentary, everybody wins?

[(Anonymous)]

I share whenever I can, but we don't see each other in person very often. Thanks for the answer, I'm always worried about this kind of thing.

[sarillia]

Start by going "I feel kind of bad complaining about this, considering, but..." and gauge their reaction from there? I'm not sure there's a one size fits all rule about this.

[(Anonymous)]

Rude no, insensitive; very possibly.

Its kinda rubbing their nose in it, and even if they start out trying to be sympathetic it is eventually going to become a sort of personal version of "first world problems". You don't have to share everything with friends, and sometimes it is better to pick and choose what you do talk about.

[(Anonymous)]

+1

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I would probably avoid doing that.

It will just make them resent the fact that you have food, and they don't. It might come across as insensitive to their feelings. And when people are hungry, they get grumpy.

Find someone else to talk to about your eating problem. Do you have another set of friends? Do you have a counsellor to discuss these issues with?

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, I wouldn't. Definitely insensitive. Talk to any supportive friend about this, but not a friend who can barely afford to eat daily. They would probably try to be supportive, but that doesn't mean that they wouldn't secretly resent you for it, or grow to resent you. And that's not good for either of you.

[(Anonymous)]

YES. Generally, pointing out that you have a surplus of something that someone else is lacking will not be well received.

[(Anonymous)]

Coming from a similar standpoint, I generally agree (though of course it depends on the person). However, I'd add that it may depend on the frequency of the topic? Mentioning it occasionally probably wouldn't be a big deal, but if it comes up quite often, they might start to get annoyed. Of course they're aware it's not your fault they don't have food, but still.