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⌈ Secret Post #2708 ⌋

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[Degrassi Junior High/Degrassi High and Saved By The Bell]

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[The Cinema Snob]

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[Phil Robertson from Duck Dynasty]

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[Silicon Valley]

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[Xavier Dolan]

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[Pacific Rim]

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[Sailor Moon]

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[Iwan Rheon]

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[Love Stage!!]

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[The Losers (movie)]

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[K-pop]

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I didn't tell my boss exactly what I'd had planned, only that I had been thinking about it. She gave me a few referrals for sliding-scale doctors that she knows, and told me we'll work my schedule around it.

The hard part is going to be making that call, because using the phone (initiating calls in particular, even to people I know) has always given me major anxiety attacks.

Oh, I'm glad that you're taking initiative. It takes a lot of effort to get going.

Making phones calls is hard, no doubt, but you've already gotten this far, so I'm sure you can do that.

Stay strong and keep at it. We'll be here supporting you in the mean time.

I completely sympathize with the phone problem; I have similar issues, to the point where I'd actually rather go somewhere in person to make an appointment face-to-face. If that isn't an option, maybe rehearsing a little before you make the call might help? Sort of putting together a semi-script of what you're going to say? (This might be something you already to, I don't know.) I know making the call will be hard, but it's definitely worth it.

Anyway, I'm glad that your boss is being understanding and willing to be flexible with your schedule so you can start seeing someone. I hope things go well for you, and that talking to a professional helps set you on a healthier path away from the negative forces in your life. *hugs if wanted*

I second everything in this comment!

Phone anxiety seems to be an oddly common phenomenon! I have it, too (though I seem to have improved a bit since I started anti-depressants). I guess it's the mix between a) not being able to see body language like in person and b) not having time to think over what's been said and take time to reply like in text???

Yeah, it's really the worst of both worlds -- real-time, but not face-to-face.

Your boss sounds like a nice person! I'm glad they're being so supportive.

And ugh, I absolutely loathe making phone calls, but the more I do it the less stressful it becomes. Sure that's not the case with everyone, but maybe it'll eventually get easier. Like cassandra said, maybe it would be less stressful in person? I also agree with them about practicing; it can't hurt and might make you a bit more comfortable.

I hope you get some help, anon. Take care of yourself and good luck with everything!

I'm so happy to hear from you and I'm so glad you're taking steps to getting out of the situation you're in. It's a brave thing to do, don't let anyone tell you otherwise.

As someone told me just the other day: be kind to yourself, anon. Give yourself time to make that phonecall - but don't hype it up in your mind to make it worse. It will likely be less horrible than you imagine it.

Small steps can take you a long way, it just takes a bit of time.

I have no idea if this will help, but I like to play a mindless computer game when I make phone calls like Mahjongg or some kind of solitaire or a relaxing flash game like this one. It gives me something else to focus on and makes me less uncomfortable if I'm calling someone I don't know.

I'm so glad to hear you're doing this, keep it up and we'll be behind you all the way! <3

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I HATE cold calling. I've found though (since moving out and having to deal with 'adult' stuff on my own), that if I have a paper with what I need to say on it in front of me before I dial, it makes it a little easier. My mind doesn't go blank and I don't feel like a complete idiot stuttering around not remembering why I needed to call in the first place.

Good luck, you can do it! :)

Add me to the list of people for whom phone calls give me a major anxiety attack. Something about being tied to the phone, not able to do anything else, makes me feel trapped.

I'm glad you were able to talk to someone about it - and that the person helped you. Please call them or visit their offices. You can do this. We are pulling for you.

You have a great boss.

Write down a script of what you want to say before making the call. Practice it a few times beforehand. Stick to the script when you call.

You have a wonderful boss. Best of luck to you, and I echo what everyone else has said. Thank you for keeping us updated!

Good for you, anon, truly. Thank you for checking in. i admire your strength and bravery and I support you all the way.

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