[ SECRET POST #2711 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2711 ⌋

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Comments

OP

[(Anonymous)]

Everybody is saying I should talk to my friend and I know that's what I should do instead of sitting around being hurt, so the next time this sort of thing comes up I'm going to bring it up to them. I'm kind of afraid to bring it up now, so I don't want to make a big deal out of it unless it's relevant.

Thanks everybody for the advice even though I just came to complain.

Re: OP

[lunabee34]

I'm really sorry this happened to you, and I don't think you are overreacting or being shitty at all.

I think you should prepare yourself not to receive the response you want from your friend, though. There *could* be a positive reason they haven't spoken to you about this since their change of heart like someone upthread who mentions not wanting to open old wounds, but I wouldn't bet on it. :(

Try bringing it up like you never did before.

[nyxelestia]

Literally.

Just bring it up again as if it's the first time you're ever bringing it up with them, like you two have never talked about it, before.

If your friend has actually changed and is just too embarrassed to own up to their past mistakes, then this provide an "out" where they can show support now without having to admit to that mistake. (If admitting that mistake is a big issue for you, get their support then bring up the past later.) I've found the best way to convince someone of your idea is to make them think it's theirs, and it works concerning changed views too - people are more willing to admit to a mistake once they are "in the right" and the mistake is no longer causing a definitive problem right now.

If, on the other hand, your friend is just paying lip service for the attention, then they'll probably react the same way they did last time, and now you know where they actually stand on the matter and can make your decision about your friendship with them from there.

Re: OP

[(Anonymous)]

Maybe your friend realized their mistake and took up the cause as a way of apologizing and showing support. They may be too ashamed to bring it up to you directly but being an ally is a way they can show they get it now.

Either way, I hope you can learn to forgive, even if your friend doesn't apologize. They got it wrong, but they likely never meant to hurt you. You say they are a good friend, so give them the benefit of the doubt. It will help you most of all.