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⌈ Secret Post #2715 ⌋

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[Tales of Innocence]

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[Transamerica]

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[Final Fantasy VIII]

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[Interview with the Vampire]

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[Andrew Lloyd Webber]

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[Critical Miss]

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[Great British Menu/Emily Watkins]

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[Mike Malinin, Goo Goo Dolls]

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[Pacific Rim]

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[Star Trek TNG]

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[Homestuck]

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[The Man From Nowhere]

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I'm going to sound like an old lady, but...

I honestly think the problem is that these days kids who are too damn young are putting damn labels on everything.

Frankly, if I'd have had tumblr when younger, I'd have gone from aromatic and agender to questioning to possibly some gradient of bi to finally just settling on bland old hetero somewhere in my early twenties.

Now, I'm not saying some people are not sure about their sexuality much younger. I'm also not saying a label can't be useful sometimes.

But sometimes I just feel like: ffs, you're 13, just enjoy your youth. Enjoy experimenting if that's your thing. Or enjoy doing stuff that is not romantic at all. But don't micro-manage everything into hyper-specialized boxes.

How old would you consider old enough to start using labels?

call no man aromantic until he is dead IMO

Considering all men are rapist scum, that seems to be a good idea.

Shh, you're trying too hard again.

I remember having a tomboy phase when I was 13-17. I think part is that there's the social labeling of what a girl is and what a boy is. I'm cisgendered-I identify as the sex I was born as-but I've never been really "girly". It took me a while to realize just because I don't like pink or wearing dresses, it didn't mean I wasn't a woman.

While of course there's trans* individuals, I think there are also kids who just aren't aware that you don't need 100000000 labels to describe what you are.

I share this thought. I dislike it when people label themselves in ways that takes a Degree In Internet Subforums to figure out.

That depends on what you call labels, and it also depends on the person.

Which makes it hard, I know.

I think it's less about the age than about X number of time having felt that way. But, age does play a factor in the sense that hormones DO change things. I mean look at your classic thing where people go from "ew opposite gender has cooties" to "opposite gender is awesome let me kiss them all over" in a matter of just few years. I'd argue sexual orientation is a very hard thing to be sure of a pre-puberty or even at the beginning of it. (gender dysporia is different, as some people get that very young). It wasn't really uncommon in my friend group to still be unsure at the beginning of college, though.

It's not so much that I think people can't have a label if they're really sure. It's that I think a lot of kids now pick labels because they feel like they need to when they've barely entered a phase where sexuality is even on their radar.

Basically, I think the better attitude would be to have "piss off, ask me in 5 years time" as a more acceptable default, than to label every possibly variation in human attraction.

And that doesn't mean you can't actually go out and date people in the meantime.

I think people take them far too seriously. It's not a horrible thing if you change over time. It's not a horrible thing to call yourself gay in one context, bisexual in a different context, and queer in a third context. It's not a lifetime commitment.

Yeah, but the taking too seriously is sort of the core of the issue with the same people. I agree it's not (or shouldn't be) a lifetime commitment. But then I've seen sheer hate and accusations of people being "traitors" or "causing erasure" or even "being transphobic" for using a "wrong" label.

Yeah, let's just erase transgender people who identify as straight, gay, lesbian, or bisexual.

Eh.

A lot of people joke about special snowflakes, but...I do think that's where the impulse to over-label comes from. There's a real drive in adolescence to be unique and special, and every generation develops their own way of expressing that. Doesn't mean it isn't obnoxious as hell; it is. But it's normal.

Give them 5-10 years and they'll be looking back and cringing.

My cut off for this shit needing to stop is High school graduation. Both of these, by their age, should be past that.

God, one can only wonder what the next generation comes up with.

Damn kids. I've been shaking my fist at them since I heard someone say Zelda 2 and they meant Majora's Mask. I knew I was old when I heard someone else, years later, say Zelda 2 and they meant Twilight Princess.

Now I feel old.

I knew I was old when I heard someone else, years later, say Zelda 2 and they meant Twilight Princess.

O.O

What.

Dare I ask...what did that person think was the first one?

Wind Waker.

Welp, that did it. Now I feel old, too. :(

ahahahahaha; that's adorable. I remember when the first Zelda II came out. Adventure of Link for the NE freaking S, you gorram whippersnappers.

*shakes cane*

I just really hope they do - I feel like the trend of "UNASHAMED OF EVERYTHING" and egocentric thinking is so strong right now, a lot of people are so self obsessed that I can't ever imagine them growing out if it.

That, and reinventing the wheel in gross and essentialist ways while strawmanning the sexual identities of everyone over the age of, oh, 24.

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