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the whole point of demisexuality is that you don't experience sexual attraction towards someone unless you know them well. doesn't mean you want to fuck them. I'm straight but I don't want to fuck every guy I'm attracted to. (I can count the number of dudes I've actually actively wanted to sleep with on one finger)

The whole point of demisexuality is that you're basically normal. Of course not everyone wants to have sex with everyone, even within their "preference." I don't really see anything queer about not being attracted to strangers, and taking a little bit of time to get to know someone before you really develop sexual feelings for them.

I don't disagree with any of that, anon. I'm talking about something slightly different/more specific: the idea that being attracted to a group of people =/= wanting to fuck that group or someone in that group. Sexual attraction =/= actual desire to sleep with someone.

And in case my last bit was confusing to you - I didn't really think about it this way at the time but I can see how it could come across that way - I don't identify as demisexual at all, I'm just pointing out that the attraction I've experienced to men - quite a few, overall - rarely means I actually would like to sleep with them. Even if it's still sexual attraction.

tl;dr to clarify what I meant: even if you are self-identified as demisexual, you can still be attracted to someone and not want to sleep with them

Edited 2014-06-21 03:19 (UTC)

No it isn't.

The whole idea of demisexuality is that you're essentially asexual until you stumble into a close relationship with someone compatible and you're suddenly like "Wait, what is going on? What are these feelings??" because you never experienced budding sexuality during puberty like most people do.

I don't even know what you're trying to say.

That's normal. The vast majority of people feel exactly that way.

"Demisexuality" might as well be "standard human sexuality."

So I'm a weirdo for being able to look at strangers or celebrities I've never met and think they're hot? Because I thought that was what was normal. I thought "standard human sexuality" involved sexual attraction being influenced by physical appearance. But I guess I'm the special snowflake now for finding people's appearances sexy whether or not I'm acquainted with them, huh?

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I think (and this is coming from someone who doesn't identify as demisexual, so I'm not claiming to speak for them) that part of the issue with demisexuality and normalcy is that it's not so much what actually is normal or not in terms of the human experience, but what our culture tells us is normal. Certainly in the part of the US in which I grew up, finding people hot based on their physical appearance was treated as a normal and expected part of human sexuality - whether it was this celebrity or that guy in math class. I can easily imagine that someone who is exclusively attracted to personalities and doesn't perceive physical appearances to be sexy or hot could feel confused, excluded, and alone as a result of growing up in that culture. Having a label helps them understand themselves and makes them feel less alone.

Hm. This is an interesting point. :|a

YES. This, so much.

I agree with you anon. I worded my comment badly and it seems I conveyed the wrong point. See my response to anon above you.

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