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I have several, but a big one is calling mental problems "first world problems" or "luxury problems".

Oh, yes. And worse, a "trendy accessory." Yeah, some article referred to depression as such. I totally had depression issues because it was in that year (and many years after)...

I have a special hatred for it because of one specific teacher, who should have known better, but who actually said hat to me while I was breaking down and crying. Fuck everything about that.

I'm sorry. :( That really sucks.

You know, in the line of things that really sucked for me around that time, that one was objectively actually minor. But, it stuck with me, so I guess it did hit a nerve big time.

I think it's two big things: a) People who are authority figures that are supposed to have your best interest at heart betraying you. I feel like some people have no business teaching, especially in a demographic that is already vulnerable. b) people dismissing something that had a profound impact on your life as unimportant. It's like they're trying to erase my story, if that makes sense.

I'm sorry if I'm ranting, but something came up recently that really made me rage - it's not at all about me, I shouldn't take it personally, but it's so close to home to me it makes my blood boil.

Thiiiissssss. It's like "Here, take my massive doses of medication that I take every day and put up with the side effects and see how "trendy" you think that is. Cuz hair loss and ashy skin is just SO IN VOGUE right now."

Though conversely, I really despise people who self-diagnose and then refuse to seek treatment. Not everyone can AFFORD treatment, but there are tons of self-help sites out there that can be so useful.

Hmm, I guess I could count as "people who refused treatment" at several points, because I didn't feel comfortable with it. I also got diagnosed by several people, with varying results (though depression was a common thread, but there were worse things,too, so to this day it's actually hard for me to tell people what exactly was going on. All I have to go on are my own symptoms, and what so-called professionals said- some of it not even to my face - put together from blurry memories I mostly tried to repress years ago)

I think it's a difficult thing. You want to get better but, but you also want to be you. With the first ever pills I was prescribed I just felt they were keeping me docile and manageable for other people, while I felt like I was still kicking and screaming under the surface. And I was still self-aware enough to refuse to do that particular dance.

To this day I am very weary about taking medication as a whole, I guess, but that's my particular issue.

I don't think it's an either/or thing. Just because you don't want a certain treatment, doesn't mean you don't want help. I think especially with stuff that goes in your head it's different than with "oh, I'll just take pain meds cause I hurt my foot". And sadly even health care professionals don't always have your best interests at heart, make mistakes, etc. I do think sometimes you're not really listened to, especially as a minor. So often I felt like people, even those who should know better, were either dismissing me or ignoring my agency as a person.

And I also think it really depends on whether your issues have a mostly external or internal cause. Because with external factors removing yourself from a situation will do more wonders than any pills ever can.(though it might be difficult to do in modern society).

But I realize opinions vary on this, and mine is extremely clouded by personal experience, which is in turn is clouded by the fact I wasn't exactly a functional human being at the point it happened.

Sorry if that was a rant.

I should have been clearer, I'm sorry! I don't mean people who just refuse pills. There are TONS of good reasons for mentally ill people to not take medication, or even to go to therapy. I just meant people who self-diagnose and then don't do things like read up on CBT or develop other mental health specific behaviors to cope with their disorder.

I sometimes think that the problem about this is that once you go seek treatment or look at it too closely by reading up on coping mechanisms, that's the point where you finally have to admit that, yes, something's not quite right and you might need help. And I think that a lot of people don't want to admit this - it feels like a defeat, like weakness (at least that was the case for me). To acknowledge that you have a problem is sometimes one of the worst and most important parts of a healing process.

Thank you for clarifying!

Edited 2014-07-02 14:30 (UTC)

I hate the phrase "first world problems" in general. Way to turn people in undeveloped countries into tragic caricatures who never feel petty emotions. In addition to the obvious problem of being yet another version of "stop complaining, other people have it worse".

"stop complaining, other people have it worse"

Which, is horrible if you think about it. Because someone is always going to have it worse than you are, but that doesn't mean your issues aren't valid. It's downplaying genuine problem in people life just because they're not a famished child with AIDS in Africa. It also poses the ridiculous notion you can't care about several issues at the same time.

"Other people have it worse" is a really lovely thing to say to, say, people suffering from depressions. "But you're really well off compared to other people, you have neither reason nor right to be sad". Yes, thanks, that only makes me feel even more guilty and self loathing, well done.

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