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⌈ Secret Post #2741 ⌋

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Friendship annoyances

[(Anonymous)]

You know, those friends you really love and all, but some things they do just really annoy you?

I have a friend who lives a longer distance away and I don't see them very often. I do try to communicate with them regularly and when they're down, I try doing something nice for them, but my life is busy and I'm not in the best place mentally atm. so I don't get around to it all that often.
They also have friends closer to them, who actually come and visit them quite often (I know this because they keep tweeting about those visits). This friend, however, is pretty insecure when it comes to human interaction and they are certain that they keep pushing their friends away and that they tend to be assholes to them without wanting to. They also keep tweeting about not having any friends, that they're being lonely and worthless.

And I always feel incredibly guilty when they do this. I feel helpless, because they also keep tweeting things like "I hate it when people only talk to me when I tell them to" and "I hate platitudes" - so even though I would like to reassure them, what is there left for me to say? According to those tweets, I shouldn't talk to them after they were whining again, and I shouldn't tell them anything along the lines of "it's going to be okay".

Another thing I find kind of annoying is that at the moment, a friend of mine, who is a huge football fan, occasionally tweets about the world cup. As do some other people. And then two of my friends keep complaining non-stop about how annoying all those football tweets are - while they themselves keep spamming everyone with 20 + fandom related tweets/tumblr posts.

And in both cases, I keep getting annoyed but never say anything because everyone is so incredibly easily insulted and I really have no desire dealing with huffy people on top of everything else.

Re: Friendship annoyances

[(Anonymous)]

I've learned that these people often kind of... want to be felt sorry for. I've had so many friends on FB and twitter say things like "no one wants to hang out with me!" So I'd offer to get together, and... nothing. One time I even told a friend she could meet me at the movie I was going to with another friend, we'd love for her to join, and she didn't even say no thank you. I think those sorts of people really just want the attention. They don't want more friends, they want their asses kissed.

Re: Friendship annoyances

[(Anonymous)]

People like that... you feel guilty and helpless because that's how they want you to feel. That's why they make a public show of wallowing in self-pity or being friendless. Making and keeping friends is hard, but whining about it is easy. I won't tell you not to feel sorry for them, OP, but at least realize that they're their own worst enemy. You can't meet their emotional needs because their emotional needs are bottomless and because they won't lift a finger to help themselves first.