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[Legend of Galactic Heroes]

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[Robin Hood]

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[Pretty Little Liars]

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To go along with the thread up there, what are some of the ways people reacted to you telling them you're not straight?

Well, like I said up there, my mom's response was "Oh. I kinda figured. Don't really know why."

I got close to this really Christian girl at school and I got tired of worrying about how she would react to finding out I'm queer so I just told her. She said I was brave for telling her and then went on to prove why I needed to be brave by giving me all her thoughts on why exactly it's a sin and then deciding it was my turn to share my thoughts on the subject and basically defend myself to her.

My mum made me cheese on toast, and that was about her only reaction. So that was, yeah, odd.

And a girl at uni halls got excited and asked me if my life was like Sugar Rush. I just burst out laughing, but luckily she took it well.

"Good, you can beta my yuri porn and tell me whether it's hot."

I told my two good IRL friends I was asexual. This was years ago, when it was still very unknown. They stared at me in surprise, then one of them said, "Well...don't write off sex until you've tried it." I shrugged and grinned and replied, "No rush there, for me!" I don't know why they were so shocked. They knew I was always going on about how pretty certain actors were, and how I just wanted to draw the actors, or hang out and chat, or comb with hair and give them a cookie if they were adorable little kids like the HP cast in early days.

My friends accepted the idea within a couple minutes, probably because they remembered my odd little non-sexual fantasies, and the subject changed, and all was well.

As coming-out goes, that one was very painless. C:

"I guess I won't have grand kids then."

Which was more accepting of my asexuality than I expected. Thus far, everyone I've come out to has been either asexual themselves or already knew asexuals... though I rarely so much come out to people as end up talking to them casually as if they already knew.

Apart from one.

"a-sexual what?"
Thinking of this one really annoys me now. I mostly got it before I was certain and now that I am sure thinking of it kinda stings.

Edited 2014-07-23 00:08 (UTC)

On my second day at a new job, the home life conversation came up with my FTO. I mentioned that I'd ended a relationship with a woman to relocate for work. The next day I came in to discover that she'd told everyone that I was gay and to not say anything offensive. It was an excellent illustration of just how fast gossip moves through a police department.

This was actually coming out as trans, but: "So I should call you Elliot now? ...Like the dragon from Pete's Dragon?"

Either they thought I was just young and confused, or they didn't actually give a crap one way or the other.

Mostly something like: "Really?" either from straight friends or gay friends.

Straight people tend to assume I'm straight, gay people tend to assume I'm gay. The fact that I'm bisexual is apparently just surprising to everyone.

Plus, I'm sure there are a bunch of people who don't believe me and think I'm just going through a phase or something, but they can go eat a bag of dicks.

I told my husband I was finally comfortable with coming to terms with my bisexuality at one point and he was like "cool, what do we want to get for dinner tonight? I'm feeling pizza."

I thought that was funny because he was completely unsurprised XP I am apparently the most poorly-hidden bisexual in the world.

Unless you make a deliberate attempt to hide it, I think it can sort of seep through, especially with the people close to you. When my bf told me one of his exes was a guy,I was not surprised at all.

Yeah, he pointed it out before. I'd frequently comment about good-looking ladies and follow it up quickly with "BUT LIKE NO HOMO" and he'd always be like "are you sure about that?" XD

My best friend told me that when he told my cousin he was gay, by this point most of our friends had known for a few months that he was out of the closet, and my cousin reacted by exclaiming, "What?! You are?! I had no idea! Oh my gosh!" and it threw my best friend off because he said he always felt it was obvious. I never gave it much thought. I mean, I remember in high school people would ask me if my best friend was gay, and I always thought it was incredibly rude that people would just come up to me and ask me rather than give that question any thought so I'd always reply with, "Why don't you ask him yourself?" That always shut them up.

- flat denial
- laughing disbelief
- skepticism disguised as acceptance
- annoyance at my attention-whoring ways
- anger (at me trying to "be something I'm not")
- anger (because being bisexual is insulting to lesbians who are more real)
- anger (because what the fuck, I thought you liked guys, were you lying?)
- actual acceptance
- eyerolls (the most common reaction)

Yeah, eyerolls is usually what I get if my bisexuality comes up. I don't usually say the word "bisexual," but I don't disguise my attraction to women. Most people just think I'm pretending/exaggerating for attention and roll their eyes.

Well, one of the first things my mom said when I told her I'm bi was: "does that mean you need to date both a guy and a girl at the same time?"

On telling my parents I'm bisexual.

My mother: "Why couldn't you be a lesbian? Then I wouldn't have to worry about you getting pregnant!"

My father: "You're not off the hook if you, you still can't get married." (For context, my father believes the institution of marriage is a cancer on society and a terrible thing to do to the person you love. I figure the fact that he thinks no one should get married still counts as marriage equality.)

And while it's not an actual coming out so much as a hypothetical one...

Last time my mother and I went to India, my mom asked me not to say anything about me being bisexual, given they tend to fall on the socially conservative side (or rather, "average" by middle-class Indian standards). I obliged, because I didn't want to make things difficult for her. Despite this, while my uncle was joking about setting me up with a nice Indian husband, he made sure to add, "or a nice Indian wife". I suspect that if I ever came out to that side of the family, they would spend half an hour fretting about "what went wrong" with me, and then start trying to set me up with every Indian lesbian they know as much as they try to set me up with Indian guys (which is that they technically don't, they just introduce me to random young men in a way that usually starts with their job descriptions or career aspirations). :P

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