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I haven't actually read the novel, but I can't imagine I'd be worth keeping alive to that degree.

Good to know. Obviously no long-term side effects, or at least - negligible ones? Thanks!

My in laws are ....well. My mom-in-law is a psycho. She needs to *stay on her meds*, holy crap. My dad-in-law drinks and over medicates with his (needed) pain meds. Neither one of them has ever had a really great grasp on reality. I stay far, far, far away, and since the last nasty incident with the mom-in-law, so does the SO.

I have no chicken in this fight, but that's such a bad argument. You're ten seconds away from someone mentioning how much money 50 Shades of Grey got.

ayrt

Oh, that's cool. I definitely don't wanna be like "rarrrr everyone must like this episode rarrr!" I just don't get the "but all they do is sit in traffic" thing.

100 million copies sold can't be wrong!

But really, I wasn't going to muster up anything better than that for "all comic book movies suck."

All or nothing statements are generally wrong.

If you haven't heard this one yet:

What do you call a smug prison inmate going down some stairs?

A condescending con descending. XD

So don't read them. Problem solved.

Why should the rest of us be deprived just because you don't like the new stuff?

+1

That's awesome. :D

I don't mean to poke into your affairs, but if I may recommend a resource . . .

Children of the Self-Absorbed: A Grown-Up's Guide to Getting Over Narcissistic Parents

My mother swears by it.

The first parahraph had me really excited, then I got to the second and it was just... oh :(

I do indeed ship them, and while I'm not sure what you mean by "skip around", I certainly wouldn't judge or ignore you for not wanting to read fics pairing them up. I'm sorry you don't feel the same way.

AH WONDERFUL ♥

Warning: This is tl;dr and definitely an annoying and possibly triggery rant (abuse)

I've definitely been drifting quite a bit. All my grandparents and my father are dead, I barely speak to my brother even though there's no real reason not to (I'm not holding some childhood grudge or anything), and I'm slowly pushing for more and more time between the times I actually have to talk to or see my mother. The only aunt and uncle I've seen more than once are retired and halfway across the country. I barely speak to them, not because they've done anything rotten, but because my situation's just a bit fucked up.

Some days I beat myself up over the fact that I can't bring myself to spend any time with my mother without having a damn near panic attack. She was so fucking abusive in multiple ways, committed emotional incest and overshared way too many times, insulted my father's memory to my face and then repeatedly told me I was "just like him" (sometimes in an ironic way), broke my trust in family and other people, never took responsibility for herself and took advantage of the fact that my brother and I were "her children" so that we had to do things "for family." Yeah, for family. She's one of the reasons I didn't keep in touch with my aunt and uncle, stupid as that is. She would always go "THEY'RE YOUR AUNT AND UNCLE, THEY'RE NOT GOING TO LIVE FOREVER, YOU SHOULD TELL THEM STUFF AND VISIT THEM" and make me feel like shit that I didn't talk to them on certain days. Which in turn just made me want to do the opposite and distance myself. She would give me shit for not calling my uncle on Father's Day. My UNCLE. A MAN WHO DIDN'T RAISE ME. Sure, it would have been a nice gesture, but if she wanted so badly for me to celebrate Father's Day, she probably should have given me a father for me to celebrate.

I don't mean to be hard on her, but she's such a narcissistic, hypocritical, irresponsible drama queen who can only exist if she can judge other people and make them feel like shit. Especially family. Because family is so important. Which is why she moved halfway across the world to get the fuck away from her own family. They're that important.

She never really has anything nice to say unless it's backhanded, or if she sees an opportunity to benefit from something good that's happening to me. I stopped sharing anything with her when I realized that every little thing I told her was going to end up with her making it a negative about me. Talk about the weather? Oh, gee, daughter, why didn't you back the car out of the garage if you knew it was going to rain? Tell her about my new job? How come you didn't get *that* job instead? You would have gotten that job if you had a better degree, what's the mater with you? Invite her to see a new movie? Oh, I hear that's a great story and that's my favorite actor and it's a happy ending UNLIKE YOUR LIFE, WHY DON'T YOU FIND A MAN ALREADY AND SETTLE DOWN, IT'S TIME FOR YOU TO GET MARRIED. COME TO THE CHURCH AND FIND A MATE, THERE ARE SO MANY SINGLE MEN. That kind of shit.

And that's just the tip of the crazy. It makes me sick to my stomach to have to be around her, to have to talk to her. Even when I get a text from her, it fills me with dread. I don't want to fucking deal with her at all. She's so disgusting and she has a lot of nerve to think she gets to reap the benefits of a healthy familial relationship without ever having made a real effort at one.

Oh yeah, and she's back at church now, trying to save my heathen soul for having no desire to attend mass. And I'm an asshole for not throwing forgiveness at her because she's decided she's "invested" in our relationship now, so whyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy won't I give her what she wants?!

The sad part is, I am capable of forgiveness. I'm just less inclined when the person in question is still finding ways to abuse me, and doesn't respect me or my wishes. I still feel like an asshole for not trusting people, even the supposedly non-crazy ones in my family. It's a struggle trying not to let one crazy bitch ruin your relationships, even years down the road.

So yeah, I'm in between. I don't know what I'm waiting for, honestly. Support from friends I don't know how to make, being officially disowned for not being the daughter she wants, finally finding the guts within myself to stand up and tell her to fuck off forever or at least to stop bothering me all the time, I don't know. I'm so sick of the societal belief that "BUT IT'S YOUR FAMILY" because people who have never experienced "that family" have no fucking goddamn idea. Just. no.

I took celexa/citalopram when I was depressed for several years. Never really noticed any side effects that were too negative - it made me drowsy, but I started taking it at night instead of in the morning and that was great. I did feel a lot better overall. I can't promise it was the medication so much as the feeling that I was finally taking steps to stop my depression, and citalopram was the first medication my doctor prescribed me, but my depression definitely died down while I took it.

I also noticed that I stopped getting horrible period cramps. Don't know if it's related or not, but after I stopped taking it, I got bad periods again. Oh well.

My step sister tried to "disown" us - but honestly, the crazy was with her, not us. After a year or so, she came back and cooled down a lot, but when she left she made a huge dramatic scene, was terrible and offensive, and invented all of this bullshit to make herself seem like a victim. I was so offended at the time, I was like, good riddance... but hey, I'm glad she's back and I love her, hopefully she's matured a bit (I really think for the most part she has).

I'm confused, if Hello Kitty is not a cat, why is she... a cat?

I know this is a troll, but if you really feel this way about your son, sit him down and give him "The Talk." Tell him why the type of porn he's watching doesn't really reflect sex in real life, explain to him how consent and being a respectful partner works, and try to point him towards some alternatives that are less degrading to women.

I would also recommend getting a marriage counselor to help out the situation between you and your husband. If you're pissed off at him, either try to communicate how you're feeling, get outside intervention, or just suck it up and divorce him. If you just sit there seething with rage, that's only going to make the problem worse. You NEED to communicate.

It's okay if you get anxious from time to time, because that feeling won't last forever. It's wonderful you have friends where you all support each other emotionally.

I hope you find your way, anon, and get to a place where you are comfortable in your own skin. Best of luck to you.

That's alright, although I'm not sure how either of you specifically landed on NPs for me. While similar and definitely toxic at various points, they're not quite what I have. I appreciate both recs though, since there's a lot that hits close to home when they crossover. Plus I can point some folk I know towards these.

Bless you, case.

Nope! The book, 'Jacob Have I Loved', came to mind first though.

Hey, that's a side effect for the *good*. :)

Thanks!

Ditto. However, I'm always surprised when my non-intentionally wanky secrets explode.

People on FS deserve to be trolled, because they love to be mad about something that day.

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You're not alone, OP.