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I'm failing my uni, regretting the choice of entering said uni and don't know where the hell I'm going in life. Worst is that they are all my own fault and I'm alo suspecting my brain is malfunctioned.

Help please?

That's not a lot of detail, anon. Why do you think you're failing your classes? Is it a time management issue, difficulty with material, difficulty with professors, etc.? You may want to check and see if your uni has some sort of academic counseling available, someone whose job it is to help you figure out these things. If you think it's a psychological issue, perhaps your uni also has someone at student health services you could talk to?

Lots of people have a rock bottom panic moment at college. I know I did. My advice is not to wallow in it and avoid the issue, because that makes things so much worse. Seek help ASAP. If you feel you can talk to your parents, be honest with them about your problems, too.

Mostly it's just personal problem. I chose my current major because I thought I can like it, but it's hard and I'm just... not good enough. All my works are inadequate, and gradually I lost motivation to even finish them. It doesn't help that there are usually lots of work and you need to ask people for help and I can't talk to people. Like my last project, I do participate but when it comes to finishing it I just left it there, till there's no way in hell I can finish it on time. Whenever I look at it I just feel so...tired and disssapointing. My sister says once that there's something wrong with my brain, maybe she does have a point.

There's no fucking way in hell I can tell my parents. They pay my tuition and I'm being such a dissapointment, I would die if they know. Also my dad and me don't have a really good relationship.

PS: ESL so sorry if it doesn't make much sense

(OP btw, the above post too)
My uni does have counselor, but I'm not comfortable with telling strangers about my problems. I can't even tell my family about my problems. Also, my country doesn't really put much importance in mental health care (therapy usually cost a lot) so I'm not really sure a uni cousellor can cut it

This is an opportunity to take stock, OP.

If you can still withdraw from your courses, consider that option. Just one less course can make your burden seem so much less.

If you can't but you think you'll still be able to finish your assessment, just late, EMAIL YOUR LECTURES/TUTORS/PROFESSORS. If you have a reason like family issues or health issues (including mental health issues), explain you have mitigating circumstances and ask for an extension (as long as you're prepared to go to a doctor/counsellor and get a certificate). If not, still talk to them. They don't want to fail you if they don't have to, so if you can pass by handing in your assignments late, do that.

Though also know that failing a course (or more) isn't the worst thing to happen in the world. Plenty of people have without it affecting their prospects. It's not ideal, but it's definitely not the end of the world, especially if you learn something from the experience.

On the topic of 'suspecting your brain is malfunctioned', I don't know what that means exactly, but it sounds like you are having a hard time. Please talk to someone about this - most universities have a free counselling service at least, so you can talk to them - they have students who are struggling with their uni work some and see them all the time, so you know they'll be able to give you some advice. If you have an understanding friend, think about talking to them too - just letting someone else know you are having a hard time and knowing that they still are your friend can make you feel so much better.

Once this semester is over, you can think seriously about whether you want to continue with this degree/uni/whatever. But that's for later. Until then, just take everything one step/day/assignment at a time.

I've been where you sound like you are, OP, so I'm not just talking out of my ass. I wish you all the best OP, and I promise you it can get better.

Okay -- here are my suggestions for now. If you can, drop some classes. Hopefully, since this is your first term, you are taking some classes that are general requirements for all students and some that are major-specific. Drop the major specific ones, since those seem to be giving you the most trouble.

Do you have an academic adviser? If so, set up an appointment with them. They are supposed to be able to help you with charting a course plan, and also give you a reality check if you're in over your head (or if you just need to step back and take a deep breath).

Many universities offer life skills workshops or classes that deal with things like time management, coping with stress, etc. Consider taking one, if that's an option. If nothing else, it might help you build a support system.

Many universities also offer job counseling. If you really aren't sure where you're going in life, these people are paid to help you.

Don't be afraid to slow down a little and to ask other people for help. It's easy to be overwhelmed when you start out, but it's okay to need a little extra time and help to figure out where you want to go from here.

Maybe change your uni? See how long you have left and either gird your loins and finish it or change to another one.
Do an IQ test, see if you score higher than 100 - ie smarter than 50% of population.
Look like you know what you're doing - bluff your way towars A's.
There is a lot of unepmployed people with degrees anyway...

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