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⌈ Secret Post #2930 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

[(Anonymous)]

Drop her like it's hot. You're obviously not enjoying this friendship. I know it sucks that she doesn't have a support system, but life's too short to deal with consistently shitty friends. Plus it sounds like she's not going to improve herself. Don't do this to yourself.

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

[(Anonymous)]

yeah this

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

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OP

It's surprisingly hard? I've been trying to distance myself like someone down thread said and she complains about that. We went to same school and have many mutual friends but they're mostly casual now.

We are going to the same wedding next year. Being in the same city is making it hard to get distant although we are on opposite sides so takes an hour + between our two places. She never wants to meet on neutral ground. Always her place and...I haven't commented but it is a dump.

And I think she's very clearly depressed and needs help but she doesn't think so.

Re: Anon saying no to pushy friend

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nayrt - It's hard because you feel sorry for her, but here's the problem: no matter how much her life sucks, she crossed a line when she decided to treat her friends (or in this case, friend) badly. You cannot help someone who refuses to see there's a problem. You cannot remain friends with someone who has no idea what friendship is.

If she never wants to meet on neutral ground and always insists that you come over to her place, that makes it easier, not harder. Don't go. Don't offer elaborate explanations, just say, "Can't, sorry." and leave it at that. Hang out with her only if you want to, and only if she behaves herself. If she behaves badly and you reward her with your attention and friendship, all you'll ever get from her is more bad behavior.