[ SECRET POST #2936 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2936 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[(Anonymous)]

I wish there wasn't this giant cult around your "FIRST KISS."

Like I spent years avoiding kisses on first/second dates because I thought kisses should be organic or some shit with the whole 90%/10% meeting halfway and just naturally flowing into it and I was always nervous and overthinking things. Movies and books and shows gave me terrible expectations.

Then I finally had my first kiss several months back. And it was awkward. And short. And frankly every other kiss with him was awkward. And we eventually broke up.

But now it's like the floodgates have been unleashed. There's no sense of "first" anymore when it comes to kissing pretty much ended every first date since then and it's nbd. New Year's happened and I was/am single, so I grabbed a random person to kiss for midnight. He started to turn it into my first full on make out session (though he didn't know that), and after a brief hesitation and I figured why not. He was there and wouldn't expect anything afterwards, so I used him for the next half hour as practice.

And that's how I went from Never Been Kissed to using random, nameless dudes for makeout practice.

I don't know whether to feel like a slut or super liberated. And I have no idea how this will translate to eventually losing my virginity.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[(Anonymous)]

I honestly think it's more in the media than IRL - not that it isn't IRL, but it's sort of like wearing glasses - people IRL are like "oh okay", but for some reason in Hollywood, if a sixteen year old gets glasses, she may as well have become a Scientologist.

I mean, yeah, being a virgin at my age is considered weird, but I think even that's a calmer reaction than the ones I've seen in movies/shows.

RL people: Ah. Okay.

TV people: YOU'RE A VIRGIN? OMG GET TO A SEX DOCTOR NOW OMG YOUR LIFE IS OVER.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[herpymcderp]

Uh... but there isn't, really. There is if you listen to media, but past that phase of middle school where everyone is trying to prove how grown up they are by talking about their sexploits (including first kisses) and generally being insecure about their own development... there is no cult.

Media reflects that awkward time, often for comic effect, but it doesn't extend past childhood... unless you are actually entering cult territory where religious purity is an issue.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[lb_lee]

Psh. First times are overrated. I never understood the obsession with them.

The sex and makeouts I'm having now are WAAAAAAY better, even if you put the start date as my current relationship rather than in general. There's a learning curve, and growing comfort level.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[kallanda_lee]

I kissed a random dude at a party. It's not some magical experience.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[nyxelestia]

People go on and on about their first kiss and I don't even remember mine. *shrugs* I never understood it, either, beyond the fact I assume it stems from the same place as our cultural obsession with virginity.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[(Anonymous)]

For most people, I think it's only a big deal until you have it. I stressed over mine for a while even though I didn't have big romantic expectations. Eventually, I asked my best friend to kiss me just so I could get it over with. Then it wasn't a big deal and kisses just happened. So don't worry about it.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Yeah, that was kind of was a meant. Like I wish there wasn't a huge media focus and I guess transferred-to-people focus about the importance of a first kiss? So I made it a big deal and soon as I had my first it wasn't a big deal.

It just surprises me a little bit over how much of a NOT BIG deal it is now, compared to how it'd been before.

Overall I don't have regrets over the people I didn't kiss though. I didn't kiss them because I didn't want to kiss them. If I had, it probably would've made their nights a little happier, but it probably wouldn't have phased mine. Sometimes I wonder if it would've have made me more confident about certain things back then, but then I remind myself that I'm more confident now because of the sum total of my experiences, not just the simple fact of whether I'd kissed someone before or not.

Re: Not!fandom Secret Post

[(Anonymous)]

AYRT

Yeah, that's my experience as well, both with first kiss and first time. Looking back now, I can't believe I ever stressed about it so much and made such a big deal. Ever since, it's just been a great part of life that happens.

But that does sound like a good attitude. Sure, we could have made it not a big deal earlier, but we have no way of knowing if that would have been any better. I'm quite happy with how things turned out, even if it was a bit late. Good luck with your next firsts :)