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Not really a vent buuuuuut...

I have found a potential boyfriend. He's a little older than myself, has a job that he's held for ten years, doesn't seem like an idiot, and has his head screwed on straight.

He has texted me at least once a day since we met, and showed up twenty minutes early for our second date (dangit, I was still flat ironing my hair! Thank God I was dressed and my teeth were clean). Part of me says that is no big deal and I'm over-reacting and letting memories of past relationships blot this one (I've had some stalkers in the past. People I didn't want to be alone with calling me in the middle of the night, that sort of thing). The other part of me is bristling with worry.

Why do I live in a culture that lets me choose my own mate? I have no talent when it comes to choosing romantic partners. When I do settle down it will probably be with a serial killer or something like that.

If you lived in a culture that didn't let you choose your own mate, whoever's doing the choosing could pair you with a serial killer.

Showing up early once isn't a big deal, IMO. Just keep the guy at a bit of a distance and drop him fast and block everything if it starts to get out of hand.

You're probably right. I'm probably over-reacting.

Nah, my parents would probably marry me off to a depressingly dull accountant who would bore me to death.

Honestly, I'd say showing up early is a much better sign that showing up late. If it's only your second date, chances are he was a bit nervous and wanted to make sure that he got there on time. I know I'm almost always early to important things like appointments and job interviews specifically because I don't want to run the risk of being late if I get stuck in traffic or whatever. I tend to allow myself more time than I actually need to get somewhere, and if I get there early, that's fine by me.

+1

Being late to anything is always very frustrating for me, so I tend to show up to things at least an hour and a half or forty five minutes early even though it's completely ridiculous. If I'm supposed to be at someone's house though, I often just sit in my car in a nearby parking lot or something until the specified time approaches though so that I don't throw someone off my showing up to their house super early. It was maybe a bit inconsiderate of the guy to show up early because he should have considered the idea that those twenty minutes were being used for preparation, but he was probably just too nervous or excited to think to deeply about it

I think you're right. I'm just paranoid.

nayrt

I think your knee jerk reaction is understandable due to your past experiences, but unless you start getting more warning flags from him, it would be good to try to just relax and enjoy his company. I hope you guys hit it off!

I'm gonna try. We're supposed to go for a hike and dinner after work sometime this week. :)

I do the same, except that if I get there too early I don't go in too early, I find some way to kill time, no matter how bizarre it is

That's probably more being a dysfunctional socially awkward nervous wreck as much as anything though

No, I was taught not to show up too early because people might still be getting ready. If I'm early to a party or something, I end up hanging out in the car and listening to music for a while. :/

Is he into the spanking thing? Because if not, I have bad news from the future. Lots of people, especially lots of women, have told themselves that they can just ignore their kink desires because it's Twoo Wuv this time, and they have all been wrong.

Seriously, cruising for horny divorced women in their late 30s whose marriage broke up due to sexual incompatibility and who are now looking for everything they told themselves they didn't really need? That's an entire ecological niche in any decent-sized kink community.

You and I see into the same crystal ball. I'm not interested in ignoring my wants and desires for 'twoo wuv.' But to be honest, I'm not sure if he's into the same stuff I'm into.

He's a hardcore Tea Partier, loves 'Merica, and talks like Boomhauer. So if I had to guess I'd wager he's probably kinkier than I am.

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