[ SECRET POST #2980 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #2980 ⌋

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Notes:

Lots of multiple secrets in one comment this week, throwing off the count!

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 083 secrets from Secret Submission Post #426.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
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Comments

Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

The Meg Ryan secret reminded me - I hate people touching my face, and it really icks me out to see it in movies as a romantic thing, especially when the guy actually looks like he's holding the girl's face, like this: http://tinyurl.com/kx9hbfe

Or holding her chin: http://tinyurl.com/puyf6av

Do you have any supposedly romantic or sweet gestures that you seriously hate?

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Anything big and public that puts me on the spot. I hate grand gestures, mainly because they are more about the ego of the guy making them rather than me as recipient. I'm a private person, so I prefer small private gestures.

Oh, and kissing on the forehead. What am I, five? Just don't.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Feeding each other. It pings my infantilism/age play squick even when that's not the intent of whoever's doing it. And since I watch a lot of anime, I even get like this about the romance cliche of girls making bento lunches for the guy they like.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

I dislike people touching my lower back. Even if it's just a touch to direct you somewhere but especially during dancing. It makes my skin crawl.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[comma_chameleon]

Being sang to in public. Every time I see this in movies I cringe so hard and have to either mute or fast forward.

Unexpected public proposals. I just feel it puts the proposee in a bad position if it's not something they've discussed beforehand.

Eye contact. XD I know this is weird and not really a 'romantic gesture', but I HATE looking people right in the eyes. I feel like I'm stuck in some sort of weird staring contest.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Forcibly touching/kissing people is apparently romantic.

Also, public and unexpected declarations of love (like proposals of marriage!) are sooo sweet.

NO THANK YOU.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[ginainthekingsroad]

I don't like having my face touched either. I also don't like people putting their hand or arm over my shoulder. I have a tic disorder and touching my face/neck/shoulders can set me off. Not fun and not romantic.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[mekkio]

I HATE THAT SO MUCH TOO!!!

Ugh. Just don't touch my face. And don't rub my shoulders as well unless you are trying to get the knots out because I don't find it at all romantic.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[kallanda_lee]

I hate people moving my chair. It's always awkward. It's not even romantic, more like forced chivalry.

Also, some people thing jealousy is "romantic". I find it off-putting.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Codependency.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Apparently, some people think showing jealousy is romantic. To me it's not, drop it or I run the other way.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Not hate, but I don't like being given flowers. They just die. I would rather have nothing or sweets or, I dunno, a Funko Pop Vinyl figure.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Serenades.

Feeding each other, but only when it's done in an overly gooey manner or they're explicitly doing it to be romantic and cute. I don't mind when it's a situation like "this food is amazing you need to taste it" and they feed them a bite with little fanfare.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[herpymcderp]

I love you so much I'll destroy my _____ for you!

No, fuck you. Don't break something of yours to guilt me into performing the way you want in a relationship. That is guaranteed to make me give you the middle finger and walk on.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[nightscale]

I always see shit-tons of 'when he plays with your hair' or 'the best feeling is when someone plays with your hair' posts and ugh no. I hate that, leave my hair alone, I've got it looking how I want it to, do not fuck that up.

Also people tend to pull way harder than they think they do when petting/playing with hair, it's not fun or nice.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

"You're perfect! I love you so much I can't live without you, never leave meeee!"

Ugh, get AWAY.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

I don't like grand gestures, like public proposals on the jumbotron or whatever. I also dislike most of the hideous jewelry marketed for Valentine's Day, like big glittery (and likely low quality) diamonds in the shape of a heart.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Kissing in general. I enjoy sex and other types of physical intimacies and the ones I don't enjoy, I can usually at least understand why people would do them, but kissing is the one thing I don't get. It just doesn't do anything at all for me. I don't really despise it (except french kissing, which I personally find disgusting) or get bothered when other people kiss, but I really don't enjoy it

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

I can't stand people touching my neck and shoulders. This includes things like giving me a neck rub, which most people find sweet/romantic.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Don't touch my hair. Don't hold my hand while walking. Actually, don't hold my hand at all because I feel trapped if you do. I hate tongue kissing. Big, sweeping public gestures will leave you standing alone in a crowd of people laughing at you because I ran away. No candy, no flowers. And if you buy me jewelry, please stop and think about it first instead of buying the first shiny thing that catches your attention (my engagement ring is beautiful but clashes with all of my jewelry so I have to either wear it and no other jewelry or wear my other jewelry and not my engagement ring). And animals are sentient beings, not playthings!

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[philstar22]

Touching my back. I really, really hate my back being touched, especially my lower back. Then again, not strictly a romantic gesture as my dad insists on doing it to make me move faster even though he knows I hate it.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[nyxelestia]

I'm not a big fan of holding hands. Seriously, what if I need my hands for something, or I want to talk/gesture with my hands, or I want to type something on my phone?

I also don't get the point of "romantic" candies or chocolate. What's romantic us getting each other stuff we know we'll love, not a box of random chocolates in a heart-shaped box. Give me drugstore candy any day! :P

Flowers mean just about nothing to me. They're pretty and all, but so what? I want something I can "use" (eat, wear, actually use, etc.) The one time I got someone flowers, it was roses for my mom - and she immediately cut them up, using the petals in a recipe that required rose petals (fuck if I know how that worked) and using the stems and leaves to feed some pet bugs she had at the time. I was quite happy about it because yay, two uses for my one gift, that means was an awesome gift, I'm so glad! But when I tell that story to most people, they tend to get rather indignant on my behalf that she actually enjoyed and made use of those flowers instead of just shoving them into a vase to slowly wither away. *eyeroll*

I will NEVER understand how public proposals without prior discussion of marriage is romantic. Marriage a life-changing decision and you want your partner to make a choice in front of witnesses that will probably judge or belittle them if they make the wrong choice? How the fuck is that romantic? It's one thing if you two were talking about marriage beforehand, and you already agreed on it and know for sure you and your partner want to get married - then I get why a public proposal could be sweet or romantic. But just springing it on someone? That sounds like a recipe for disaster - if your partner doesn't want to marry you, then either they reject you in front of witnesses, or they initially accept because of said witnesses, then reject you in private, making it worse because you were so happy in the first place.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[(Anonymous)]

Neediness. BIG turn off.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[belladonna_took]

I really don't like it when people insist on paying for everything. I'll happily let you pay if I get the bill next time or we can split a bill, but not allowing me to pay for anything makes me feel like a child. Buying me things when I say I don't want them, too. If I say I don't want another drink, I'm not being coy or whatever. I just don't want another drink.

Tickling me or lifting me up or patting me on the head. Yeah. It's real cute. I had no idea I was shorter or weaker than you. Please remind me constantly and ignore me whenever I ask you to stop or tell you I don't find it funny.

Re: Romantic gestures you hate

[diet_poison]

I like a lot of classically romantic gestures, but over-the-top classic chivalry grates on me. :/