[ SECRET POST #3071 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3071 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Colin Mochrie and Ryan Stiles from Whose Line is it Anyway?]


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[Ansatsu Kyoshitsu]


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[Boardwalk Empire]


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[Ore Monogatari]


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[Kid Icarus]


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07.
[Eurovision]


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[Elden Henson, Daredevil]


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[His Dark Materials]


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10.
(Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.)


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[Elfquest]


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[Psych]


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(Marvel's Agents of SHIELD)









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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

...talking shit about someone behind their back is more polite than being upfront to them?

[(Anonymous)]

Right? I am so bewildered.

[(Anonymous)]

Sounds like a cultural difference. In east asian cultures, not bringing up a problem is polite.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes? Both are awful, but at least if you do it behind their back they won't know about it and won't be hurt by it.

[(Anonymous)]

"but at least if you do it behind their back they won't know about it"

someone was never a teenager

[(Anonymous)]

If you insult someone behind their back, there's a chance they'll find out and a chance they won't, and the effort is made to keep their feelings from being hurt. If you do it to their face, it's always deliberate. Everyone talks behind backs. Mature people know how to not like someone without wanting to hurt their feelings.

[(Anonymous)]

na

most people don't talk behind people's backs because they're trying to spare their feelings (or at least most children and teenagers don't although I do know a lot of very gossipy adults). they're just being dicks, and I say that as someone who used to trash talk people behind their backs. everyone did it and we were all assholes

[(Anonymous)]

I don't know, I find that in general (and with younger people) people don't talk behind someone's back to spare the person's feelings being hurt, but because they know what they're saying is shitty and they don't want to get in trouble.

And doesn't this scene happen while they're like in grade school? Kids that age are not exactly known for their maturity and you can't really expect them to.

[(Anonymous)]

People don't talk about someone behind their back to spare their feelings. They do it to spare themselves the unpleasant feelings of confrontation.

[(Anonymous)]

This. Talk behind someone's back if you want (pretty much everyone does it anyway) but don't pretend that you're doing a nice thing and that you should feel good about doing it because you're "sparing their feelings." If you really wanted to spare their feelings, then you wouldn't say rude things about them in the first place.

[toshi_hakari]

Exactly. There is nothing nice or noble about talking behind someone's back.

[(Anonymous)]

I think it depends. If someone's pretending to like you to your face and then going off about how much they detest you behind your back, I don't think it matters that they're not "hurting your feelings." It's really shitty to be two-faced to someone, especially since, if they ever find out (which they usually do in situations like that, because it's kind of hard to pretend to like someone forever), it can fuck up how they form relationships going forward.

[sarillia]

Honestly, if people are going to be talking shit about me I'd rather they not waste my time with it and just keep it between them and their friends. But I've found that I seem to be in the minority on this.

[(Anonymous)]

I agree. Let them have their drama with their little drama-loving friends as long as they are polite enough to do it away from me.

[(Anonymous)]

I bet you have no idea how many people have talked about you behind your back. If all of those people had talked to your face, you'd feel different.

[(Anonymous)]

ayrt

I'm sure TONS of people have talked behind my back. I'm not saying I'd have welcomed them saying it to my face; I just don't think that saying things behind people's back is more polite. It's not like you have to say mean shit about people whether it's behind their back or not (I can't lie and say I've never done it though, but I acknowledge that I was being a total dick during those times).

[(Anonymous)]

For me I think it depends on the situation, if you just want to rant about something annoying I did but it's not going to affect our relationship at all and it'll just hurt my feelings to hear, I think it's better to just talk behind my back.

But if something is so serious that it could affect the relationship, I think it's better to be honest and confront the person with it. Also for any situation that there are questions about and need to be talked through.

In some cases it's cowardly to talk behind a person's back and in some cases it's for the best, it really depends.

[(Anonymous)]

Both ways suck, and that person talking about you isn't your friend.