[ SECRET POST #3080 ]

[case]

⌈ Secret Post #3080 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.


__________________________________________________



02.


__________________________________________________



03.


__________________________________________________



04.


__________________________________________________



05.


__________________________________________________



06.
[Dead Poets Society]


__________________________________________________



07.


__________________________________________________



08.
[Tobey Macguire]


__________________________________________________



09.
[Billy Connolly]


__________________________________________________



10.
(Marvel Cinematic Universe/Marvel's Agents of S.H.I.E.l.D.)


__________________________________________________



11.
[Love Live]


__________________________________________________



12.
[Life is Strange]


__________________________________________________



13.
(Hysterical Literature/Walt Whitman)


__________________________________________________



14.


__________________________________________________



15.


__________________________________________________



16.


__________________________________________________



17.







Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 02 pages, 032 secrets from Secret Submission Post #440.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 0 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[cbrachyrhynchos]

Assuming you ignore all of the issues with internalized homo/biphobia, don't have to deal with a partner who flips out and becomes abusive, or any of the social and political issues around being LGBT in our culture.

[(Anonymous)]

I feel like you're missing an introductory sentence in your statement. Figuring out that you have an attraction to the same sex doesn't need to also be a political statement. It's a bit of self-awareness like, even though I'm with someone who's brunette, I get seriously turned on by gingers. Oops. I wish I'd figured that out sooner.

[cbrachyrhynchos]

Our sexuality appears apolitical up to the point when we encounter prejudice based on our sexuality. Which could be as simple as opening your web browser, or as difficult as intimate partner violence and abuse. It's political because straight people make it political, and it's political because sexuality is almost universally political. Everything from "are you really going out with him" to listing your partner as medical power of attorney.

[kallanda_lee]

Oh come on.

I sort of get what you're saying, but that comparison just doesn't stand.

[(Anonymous)]

Some people just have to wave a flag. Whatever.

[cbrachyrhynchos]

True story, the first (and only person for over a year) to know my sexual orientation was a straight lover. She had a big problem with it, and never passed up an opportunity to throw her belief in my eventual non-monogamy and transition to full gay in my face.

[(Anonymous)]

Yes, how very dare anyone even contemplate doing anything other than living their life in the closet. Those attention-whoring hussies.

nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

But... if you're already with someone long-term, it doesn't actually matter who else you could date or marry.

Like, I'm bi too and still have no idea what the OP's problem is?

Re: nayrt

[(Anonymous)]

It's not so much a problem as just a new thing to deal with.

For example, what if your attraction to your husband wanes, but your attraction to women is growing at the same time? That happened to me for over a year. It was hard to deal with. I love my husband and didn't want to leave him, much less be unfaithful, but how do you explain that kind of thing to someone and not have it hurt them? Or you could just say nothing and pretend, but after a while that's worse and more hurtful to the other person than just coming clean, because if you're close to someone you definitely notice when they've stopped seeing you in a sexual way, and yet this same person is suddenly looking at women?

It's a bit simplistic to say there are never any complications, but the most important thing is honesty and love.

[a_potato]

It doesn't have to be a political statement for a person to experience bigotry or to feel marginalized.

There is no widespread discrimination against people who are attracted to multiple hair colors. People who like both brunettes and gingers don't kill themselves or experience partner abuse at a much higher rate than people who only like one or the other. Having a preference for a particular physical trait is very, very different from having a particular sexual orientation, and simply being open and honest about one's sexual orientation can have a huge impact on a person's life whether s/he wants to be politically involved or not.