[ SECRET POST #3125 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3125 ⌋

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Comments

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

When cutting friends from LJ, are you supposed to post about it? I'm about to do a major friends' cut, and I saw a comment from someone saying they couldn't believe they were silently cut. But honestly, "I'm doing a friends' cut" posts always seemed a bit awkward to me, especially if they say things like "tell me if you want to stay" or "tell me if you want to be re-added." (I actually loathe the former. How passive aggressive is that?) On the other hand, I'm sure there's people who wonder if they said something, and might even be surprised if they thought it was a close LJ friend. So I can see that side.

So what's nicer - a "sorry but I'm doing a cut, no hard feelings" post, or just cutting them and silently wishing them the best?

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Well, what people prefer is going to vary from person to person, so even if you get a general consensus here, your flist may still disagree. You should just do it however you want to and remind yourself (and others, if necessary) that it's not personal. No need for big announcements, but you could say that you're simply doing a little housecleaning on LJ and don't elaborate on why you're cutting people or who you're cutting. If you resist the urge to offer explanations, you'll cut down on people making awkward challenges.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

Ehh, I wouldn't normally. Especially since people I cut are usually those I have zero contact with. If anything, I think Friends' Cuts announcements are like "here, comment if you want to redeem yourself by never talking to me and stay" sort of deals. I think it's way more awkward if you try to make it personal. At most, some generic announcement, but I don't really think that's necessary.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

I would say do it silently. Most often you cut people as you don't interact with them that much, and chances are they won't notice (at least not right away).

That being said, some people seem to take these kinds of things way too seriously. Like a friend of mine once got a phone call from a girl from middle school after unfriending her on Facebook, and they hadn't even really been friends back in school.

Re: Advice

[(Anonymous)]

They'll notice if they have a Paid account, which allows you to sign up for notifications when people de-friend you. Not that this should stop OP, just thought I'd mention it.

Re: Advice

[caerbannog]

Eh, I make a very generic "doing a friends cut, sorry guys out interests have gone different ways and I can't keep up with my feed cheers" so even if just one person is cut, they don't feel singled out ;)

With tumblr I'm much more ruthless and just unfollow willynilly.