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Case ([personal profile] case) wrote in [community profile] fandomsecrets2015-10-09 07:39 pm

[ SECRET POST #3201 ]


⌈ Secret Post #3201 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[Scream TV series]


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02.
[Erasure/Andy Bell]


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04.
[AmazingPhil and Danisnotonfire]


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05. [SPOILERS for Man from UNCLE]



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06. [WARNING for rape, war]



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07. [WARNING for rape]



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Notes:

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Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 1 - repeat ].
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What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 10:49 pm (UTC)(link)
You're (probably) anon! Go crazy!
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Re: What's your biggest secret?

[personal profile] caerbannog 2015-10-09 10:52 pm (UTC)(link)
I don't like baby animals. :/

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 10:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Why? Not that I'm judging you, but that's such a weird thing to dislike.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

[personal profile] herpymcderp 2015-10-09 11:55 pm (UTC)(link)
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You monster.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:13 pm (UTC)(link)
My biggest secret is that I'm a virgin (not by choice). I know that's probably not so big to some people and it's something I'm supposed to think doesn't matter. But it is a secret - I'm not really even comfortable talking about it pseudonymously, let alone in real life. And it does matter to me. Not specifically because I am obsessed with getting sex but because, first, I'm lonely, which obviously is not exclusively a virginity thing but does have to do with physical intimacy. And second I can't help but worry that it's because of some kind of basic incapacity or lack, because there's something wrong with me. I can't help but be afraid about whether my friends would judge me and think less of me. Because it seems like the kind of thing that people do think less of others about. I just can't stop thinking what if there is something wrong with me. And I don't want anyone looking at me like a freak. So I never talk about it with anyone.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:14 pm (UTC)(link)
How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?

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[personal profile] herpymcderp 2015-10-09 11:51 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, chances are you're a craiglist ad away from losing that v-card OP.

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Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 12:03 am (UTC)(link)
Same. I want to get laid but I also fail at putting myself out there. The thought terrifies me.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 12:55 am (UTC)(link)
Being a virgin at 25 isn't a big deal, but I understand why you're worried. I was 24 the first time I went on a real, honest-to-god date, and I had pretty much exactly the same thought process you're writing about--is there something wrong with me, why can't I really be intimate with someone emotionally much less physically, how does everyone else just know how this shit works, forever alone and there's nothing I can do about it. And suddenly there was this guy who was, miracle of miracles, interested in me, and he was cute, and he was surprised I had never seen this movie, and did I want to go to his apartment and watch it? And after about half an hour it was pretty clear he was way less interested in the movie than he was in the contents of my underwear, and I thought, fuck it, I'm 24, I'm ready, let's do this.

I wasn't ready.

I guess what I'm saying is don't be so ashamed of yourself that you end up going zero to sixty smack into a brick fucking wall of regret and trauma like I did. I'm sorry if this isn't very coherent but this is literally the first time I've ever told anybody how I actually feel about this and it's putting me back in a not great place mentally, but this is important enough that I wanted to tell you anyway. Please take care of yourself, OP. And for the love of christ, don't be afraid to tell your significant other that you want to take it slow and idek just make out a little, even if you don't want to admit to it being your first time.

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(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 01:08 am (UTC)(link)
I get you, OP. I'm 27 and the same. I've had chances but something always went wrong or something was just off about the whole situation, and time went on and like...idk. I want to do it but kinda have trust issues. I don't want anyone close to me (who I could choose to bang) to look at me differently like I think they would if they knew, but strangers come with a whole different set of risks I don't know if I'm up for. Plus I'm shy. Lol ugh

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 01:23 am (UTC)(link)
I'm more than a decade older than you, and same. I pretend that I have had sex with a handful of people when talking to others, because I don't want to be that pathetic of a person. I'm sorry you also feel that way. You have time, though! 25 is not that old. Good luck.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 05:53 am (UTC)(link)
Oh man, OP, I'm in a similar place (26, only kissed someone for the first time 2 years ago and it went Badly). And I can't help with a lot of it, because I feel all those things and then some, but I have found that talking about it with trusted friends is helpful. For me the response has been a lot of "that doesn't really matter, everything happens in its own time, there's no schedule", which I know is true but have trouble believing, BUT, it's gotten me more comfortable with vocalizing it, so if the time comes along that I'm going to have sex, I'll be able to tell my partner. Because at this point, if I've waited this long to have sex, I want my first time to be enjoyable and that'll never happen if the other party isn't aware.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:17 pm (UTC)(link)
Only one of my closest friends knows that I basically stopped going to classes at the depth of my depression during my last year of university (UK uni) and that I flunked my course because I didn't hand anything in for my final project because I'd done nothing.

They basically gave me a pity degree because I'd done 2/3 years of the course and just fell at the last hurdle.

I'm much better now, but it's probably one of my biggest regrets. I wish I hadn't bothered going. I'm in debt, I broke up with my then-girlfriend

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(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:18 pm (UTC)(link)
I'm in debt, I broke up with my then-girlfriend because I couldn't tell the difference between 'we argue all the time because my course is stressful and this long-distance thing is very difficult and I have mental health issues' and 'we argue all the time because you hate me and I'm an awful person'.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:32 pm (UTC)(link)
I was in that place, without that huge regret of losing a relationship. instead of finishing it I dragged it out for another 2 years and now I might finish it badly. so maybe you at least saved time? maybe it's not much of a solace...

Re: What's your biggest secret?

[personal profile] herpymcderp 2015-10-09 11:55 pm (UTC)(link)
Well, that sucks OP. On the other hand, if you learned anything remotely useful about dealing with stress then it probably wasn't a total loss.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:24 pm (UTC)(link)
I committed a sex crime and got away with it.

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(Anonymous) 2015-10-09 11:58 pm (UTC)(link)
Two to three people know I cheated on my spouse (not including my spouse, and no, I'm not ruining my life by confessing), but no one but me and the other person knows I did so unprotected. I did get tested, and no STDs, thankfully, and now I'm in a better headspace and properly feeling ashamed for my actions. Cheating is one mistake I will never make again.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 12:14 am (UTC)(link)
I don't want to be a teacher, but since I majored in English, everyone assumes that's what I'm going for. I just agree because it's easy to say yes than open a can of worms. Honestly, I don't know what I'd like to be. I just like to read and write.

Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 12:33 am (UTC)(link)
I don't actually have any ambition. I picked my major based on what people tell me I "always liked doing". I guess it's something I could be good at, if I had any drive to succeed.

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(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 01:01 am (UTC)(link)
I shoplift on a regular basis. Because poor. But only at chain stores, I'm an ~ethical criminal.

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(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 01:07 am (UTC)(link)
I am from the planet Zeist, and I cannot die.

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I'm not quite as confident as my RL friends seem to think I am.

[personal profile] chardmonster 2015-10-10 04:27 am (UTC)(link)
Which is kind of funny, because I am consistently telling them I am not as confident as they think I am. I'm not really faking it until I make it here. Does something count as a secret if you are not trying to keep it secret?
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Re: What's your biggest secret?

(Anonymous) 2015-10-10 04:43 am (UTC)(link)
I've never had a full-time real job.
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Re: What's your biggest secret?

[personal profile] morieris 2015-10-10 05:06 am (UTC)(link)
I like my major, but I'd really rather do something in the movie industry - but not in front of the camera, not even behind it, but something like box office analysis or downright newspaper film critic.

It's always funner when it's free I guess.