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[ SECRET POST #3210 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3210 ⌋

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I would find it just as creepy as any other dating site, probably.

As, weirder.

Having a dating site that's actually good and useful is a really hard problem, and there's just not that many people actually in Fandom Fandom.

Dashcon.

this is a good idea. although i know a lot of people who've got together through fandom - so i wonder whether it's slightly superflous as long as your fandom has some place where you can talk to other people (obviously often this isn't the case - you need a hook).

If your standard is Steve Rogers, you will be sorely disappointed, my friend.

That's most likely true, but it isn't difficult to see why OP would want Steve Rogers!

(If I can't have Steve, I'd take Peggy... though that too is unlikely.)

Psst... http://www.gk2gk.com/

on the front page a few guys wear glasses and none of the girls. hm-mm. Maybe I'm seeing sexism everywhere though

Maybe the pictures cycle or something, but I see two different girls wearing glasses on the frontpage when I clicked on it.

you're right! That's a relief.

Because it's a stupid idea to assume you will get along with someone just because they share the same bizzare hobby you do.

It's a greater expression of love if they support/tolerate your hobby even if they have no interest in it.

My husband and I were introduced by a friend because we were both Trekkies. 11 years and 2 kids later, I think he knew what he was doing.

Hey, if it worked out, that's a wonderful thing! I wasn't implying that a hobby can't be a way to meet new people.

I'm just saying that a hobby can't be the only thing that keeps a couple together. I've seen too many examples of people who met a cute person with the same hobby and afterwards had the idea that it was ok to try to shoehorn the other person's character into a shape that was convenient to them. Because in their pov as long the hobbies matched the rest was something you could just change.

More stupid than regular dating sites, where the basis of compatibility is usually how hot you think someone is?

Both is stupid. In both cases you burden the other person with too much expectations.

But to be fair, this is not only a problem of dating sites but a problem of how relationsships in general work today. It's not enough to just have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Your significant other also has to be your best friend, your at all times to be available sexmate and a human version of xanax -> making sure that you're feeling good and entertained all the time and to never burden you with any kind of negativity.

Physical attraction is important. It's not the only important thing and static pictures on a computer screen aren't always a good way to see what someone looks like (says someone who oes NOT photograph well) but it can't be dismissed as shallow and insignificant.

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(Anonymous) - 2015-10-19 01:08 (UTC) - Expand

Uhh most dating sites have compatibility algorithms. Have you actually been on like... OKCupid? It's based on your answers to 100s of different questions.

"Because it's a stupid idea to assume you will get along with someone just because they share the same bizzare hobby you do."

*nods*

And nevermind dating, just think of all the people you end up *hating* in fandom, even though you have a common interest.

Dating sites are a tricky thing. They don't work unless they have enough users to make it possible to actually meet someone, and have some choice about it. A fandom-only dating site realistically probably wouldn't get enough traffic, especially if you lived outside one the world's major cities.

But for what it's worth, places like OKCupid have you list your interests and such, and I've met up with many people who mention they are into something geeky. It's harder to find that kind of thing on say Tinder, but pretty easy to meet up with other geeks on OKCupid.

uh just join okcupid and mention your fave fandom in your tags somewhere, then go and search out people who also mention something fandomish.

Then the usual dating dramas and maybe you'll meet someone.

There was a fandom dating site... I don't think it's up anymore, but from what I recall I had a difficult time with it. There weren't options to change who you saw, so I'd be like "aw she/he's cute" and go in and they would not match up with my sexuality. I submitted a bug report about that, and I can't for the life of me remember anything after that.

I think it was just fandomdating dot com but all of my Googling doesn't tell me if it's around anymore so I'm guessing not.

Den of geek has one! http://www.seek-a-geek.co.uk/ unfortunately, it's UK only. I would have loved to try it out...

That's a really good idea! I'm ace so I wouldn't partake but a lot of people I know would benefit.

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