[ SECRET POST #3210 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3210 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Because it's a stupid idea to assume you will get along with someone just because they share the same bizzare hobby you do.

It's a greater expression of love if they support/tolerate your hobby even if they have no interest in it.

[(Anonymous)]

My husband and I were introduced by a friend because we were both Trekkies. 11 years and 2 kids later, I think he knew what he was doing.

[(Anonymous)]

Hey, if it worked out, that's a wonderful thing! I wasn't implying that a hobby can't be a way to meet new people.

I'm just saying that a hobby can't be the only thing that keeps a couple together. I've seen too many examples of people who met a cute person with the same hobby and afterwards had the idea that it was ok to try to shoehorn the other person's character into a shape that was convenient to them. Because in their pov as long the hobbies matched the rest was something you could just change.

[(Anonymous)]

More stupid than regular dating sites, where the basis of compatibility is usually how hot you think someone is?

[(Anonymous)]

Both is stupid. In both cases you burden the other person with too much expectations.

But to be fair, this is not only a problem of dating sites but a problem of how relationsships in general work today. It's not enough to just have a girlfriend/boyfriend. Your significant other also has to be your best friend, your at all times to be available sexmate and a human version of xanax -> making sure that you're feeling good and entertained all the time and to never burden you with any kind of negativity.

[(Anonymous)]

Physical attraction is important. It's not the only important thing and static pictures on a computer screen aren't always a good way to see what someone looks like (says someone who oes NOT photograph well) but it can't be dismissed as shallow and insignificant.

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed! It's not that people necessarily all look for the "hottest" person, either, but you need to feel some kind of attraction for the person you're going to enter into a romantic relationship with.

[(Anonymous)]

Uhh most dating sites have compatibility algorithms. Have you actually been on like... OKCupid? It's based on your answers to 100s of different questions.

[(Anonymous)]

"Because it's a stupid idea to assume you will get along with someone just because they share the same bizzare hobby you do."

*nods*

And nevermind dating, just think of all the people you end up *hating* in fandom, even though you have a common interest.