[ SECRET POST #3245 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3245 ⌋

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

You remind me of the girls who says "I want to be raped by *hot guy*!!!". I seriously doubt you would enjoy a fucked up/abusive relationship in RL.

[(Anonymous)]

That was my first thought. Well, "OP sounds young" anyway.

[kallanda_lee]

I...I don't know. It's more subtle in relationship. I think I go for functionally-dysfuctional relationships myself, in a way, and I'd feel sort of uncomfortable in the type of relationship most people want.

Of course it's different if there's an element of abuse, obviously, and it's a problem. But I can understand having the feeling of not seeing the appeal of "normal relationships", though of course normal is relative.

[(Anonymous)]

What do you mean by functionally dysfunctional?

[kallanda_lee]

By that I'd say I mean that we like each other, and manage to maintain something that resembles a relationship, while we're probably people who, separately of each other, should probably not be in a relationship. And certainly not a "normal" person, because we'd make them dreadfully miserable and vice versa.

If you get down to the details of it, it's actually harder to explain.

I guess one of the things is that it seems to be fairly casual in terms of what long-term things usually are - we don't really go for a progression, we don't really have common goals, we're not a "unit" financially or otherwise.

We both actually sort of prefer being alone a lot of the time.

We're sort of quirky, difficult, sometimes unpleasant people with pasts that the other doesn't even know the exact details (especially on my end, actually, for all he knows he could be dating an actual sociopath), but it just sort of...works.

I dunno. I'm not sure any of that made an sense.

[(Anonymous)]

That doesn't seem dysfunctional, just casual.

I mean, I don't think a relationship has to be the things that society says it's supposed to be for it to be "healthy." I think it just has to involve not being abusive or disrespectful to your partner.

[kallanda_lee]

I don't think we're abusive. I think both of us actually have great potential to be, though, in different ways. And it's weird, because we're both acutely aware of how much the one could fuck the other one up and vice versa, but as I said, we like each other, so we don't.

[(Anonymous)]

Isn't that the main difference between someone who's abusive and someone who's not though? Everybody has the potential to be an abuser, and the people who aren't abusive are people who are aware of that and don't act on the potential.

[kallanda_lee]

Hmm, maybe you're right. I'll ponder on that one.