[ SECRET POST #3256 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3256 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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[The Man From U.N.C.L.E.]


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[Ace Attorney]


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Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 01 pages, 010 secrets from Secret Submission Post #465.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Comments

[gobbledigook]

Nothing wrong with not being into whatever stuff, but I do have to wonder how does this sort of conversation even comes about that you are constantly having to mention that you're grossed out by it? It seems kinda bizarre to me, since when I see discussion of something I'm not really into or am grossed by I just... gloss over it and search for something that tickles my fancy instead?

Also, I always had a thought about this: "you can be okay with receiving something and not giving it", it makes sense to me but I'm pretty sure there's people who will get really upset when men don't want to do oral sex on their (female) partners. What do you think of this, and doesn't it go against what you say about men being coddled?

[(Anonymous)]

Your second paragraph is what bothered me about this secret. It's one thing to say "sorry, butt play isn't my kink; I don't want to touch anyone's butt and I don't want anyone touching mine" and quite another to say "EW GROSS you want me to stimulate your prostate?!?!? .....but okay, i ENCOURAGE anal play on myself."

It's like your oral sex example - I'd be fine if a guy said "I don't like the idea of oral sex so I wont be giving or receiving" (though he wouldn't be sexually compatible with me) but I'd hella judge if he said "I don't want to perform oral sex on my female partner BUT GIMME ALL THE BLOWJOBS."

[dancing_serpent]

I'd hella judge if he said "I don't want to perform oral sex on my female partner BUT GIMME ALL THE BLOWJOBS."

Why, though? I'm honestly curious. Preferences and "fairness" are two different things after all.

[gobbledigook]

Yeah, it's tricky because I honestly can see myself agreeing with both sides on this one. Not willing to do something for your partner because you "find it disgusting", but not minding your partner doing it to you... sounds like it would be really demeaning to them, BUT withholding a sex act because you don't get something else you want in return seems a little... I don't know.

I can understand addressing the reason oral sex on women is a taboo, but at the same time I can't agree with forcing someone to do any kind of sexual act they don't feel comfortable doing. Even if someone makes a point to counteract the misogyny they learned growing up that doesn't translate to them being willing to do stuff in bed they just aren't into.

[dancing_serpent]

Very tricky, for the same reasons you mentioned.

Also, and that's TMI, so feel free to ignore - I never had sex, don't see myself ever having sex. But I'm curious, and I've watched porn. And while I find the idea of giving a blowjob unappealing, I could maybe see myself agreeing to having someone go down on me.