[ SECRET POST #3287 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3287 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

Or she might just be sensitive in criticism to her work because she's insecure and maybe young.

I don't think having a friend dump them saying "you're too sensitive about your work" (or just up and leave when OP's friend may have thought they had a good relationship otherwise) will do anything but make her more insecure and probably clingy to her next friend for fear of losing them.

OP mentioned they're sensitive in regards to their fiction, which a lot of people are at some point. If they had said "they're sensitive in nearly every aspect of their life and I feel like I can't talk to them about anything." That would be different. But "sensitive about crit for their work" is not the same.

[(Anonymous)]

People who are sensitive to criticism don't tend to differentiate between criticism of their work and criticism of other things. They're more often than not sensitive to criticism, period.

[(Anonymous)]

That's not true at all.

People have things they're confident in and would be able to take criticism in while other things they may not.

There are people who are sensitive to all criticism period exist, but they're certainly not all cases.

[(Anonymous)]

I dunno, out of all the sensitive people I've known -- and I've known a LOT -- not being able to take criticism was never limited to one thing. They just couldn't take being told the universe didn't shine out of their ass, in any capacity.

I'm just saying that if this affected OP enough that they felt they had to make a secret about it, it might be worth examining the friendship itself to see if it's worth keeping.

[(Anonymous)]

" They just couldn't take being told the universe didn't shine out of their ass, in any capacity."

That sounds more like narcissism than anything.

I'm just saying because I've known people (and as a young teen been one) who just needed to be reassured that they or what they did wasn't totally worthless.

[(Anonymous)]

Yeah, it could just be that they're insecure about their writing. But if it's stressful ennough that you feel like you gotta post it in secret community, that's a pretty big red flag, and OP should probably step back and re-evaluate the friendship as a whole.

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NAYRT

FWIW, the secret said "sensitive to any kind of criticism."

[(Anonymous)]

Oh

[(Anonymous)]

"She's incredibly sensitive to any kind of criticism" is what the secret actually says.

[(Anonymous)]

A type o phrase frequently used by people who are unnecessarily rude and harsh and expect other people to live with it and if someone in their life displays a perfectly reasonably negative reaction, the person who was insulted is the 'oversensitive" one.

[(Anonymous)]

It also describes a LOT of people in fandom, who will flip the fuck out if you dare to tell them something they don't want to hear no matter how gently you phrase it.

[(Anonymous)]

It's also a type of phrased used by people who know someone who truly IS sensitive to any hint of criticism on any subject at all. If you're lucky enough not to know anyone in real life who's like this, then great for you. Some of us know people who are so touchy you can't even say even the most innocuous of sentences.

[(Anonymous)]

+1. Fandom is full of these assholes, too. One "friend" I had like this blew up at people even if they LIKED her fic, if they dared tell her there was even a tiny thing that could use improvement.