[ SECRET POST #3340 ]

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⌈ Secret Post #3340 ⌋

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[What's My Line?]


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Comments

[(Anonymous)]

I'm curious where the cut off is for an age difference to start then. Everyone's pointing out about brain chemistry changing until you're 24 (in general), so is it 'skeevy' for a 23 year old to date a 33 year old because they're still a year below the brain cut off?

And like someone else said, there are mature younger people and super immature older people.

I would say that as long as the older person isn't doing anything that would come across as abusive or controlling in an 'age appropriate' relationship, if they're both over the age of consent, who the fuck cares.

[(Anonymous)]

"I'm curious where the cut off is for an age difference to start then. Everyone's pointing out about brain chemistry changing until you're 24 (in general), so is it 'skeevy' for a 23 year old to date a 33 year old because they're still a year below the brain cut off?"
I'm the anon who posted the link to an article about the research above. It is definitely a "in general" thing, so I don't think there can be a hard and fast rule about it really, as some might hit that brain maturity a couple of years earlier and some might hit it later. I do think that it is more about how the person thinks and acts rather than a set age. However, 19 is really young, and there are few 19 year olds who are mature, even if they think they are.

Honestly, even if the 19 year old (or whatever year old) isn't fully mentally mature, I don't think it is a problem as long as the older person is respectful of them and mindful of the disparity. But it is definitely something that should be considered. (And there are times I still find it a little off. Like when my 60-something uncle was dating someone in her young 20s. She was an adult, but it was weird.)

[(Anonymous)]

Perfect comment is perfect. Could not agree more.

[(Anonymous)]

Agreed. Maturity levels are such a highly individual thing that I don't feel you can really put specific ages on them. I know people who are nearing 40 who are less mature than some 20-year-olds I know.

[(Anonymous)]

I don't care about age differences, but I find "But the older one is immature so they're equal" to be such a strange argument. I wouldn't want to date someone who was immature for their age, no matter what that age was. I wouldn't want a friend to do that. I would disapprove of any child of mine dating an immature older person due to the immaturity first and foremost. You risk having to play the "parent" to your partner for the rest of your lives. It's not a good thing. I tend to side-eye anyone who excuses having an older partner with "He/she's immature!"

[(Anonymous)]

agreed