fandomsecrets | [ SECRET POST #3356 ]

⌈ Secret Post #3356 ⌋

Warning: Some secrets are NOT worksafe and may contain SPOILERS.

01.

__________________________________________________

02.

__________________________________________________

03.

__________________________________________________

04.

__________________________________________________

05.

__________________________________________________

06.

__________________________________________________

07.

__________________________________________________

08.

__________________________________________________

09.

__________________________________________________

10.

__________________________________________________

11.

__________________________________________________

12.

__________________________________________________

13.

__________________________________________________

14.

__________________________________________________

15.

Notes:

Secrets Left to Post: 04 pages, 093 secrets from Secret Submission Post #480.
Secrets Not Posted: [ 0 - broken links ], [ 0 - not!secrets ], [ 1 - not!fandom ], [ 0 - too big ], [ 0 - repeat ].
Current Secret Submissions Post: here.
Suggestions, comments, and concerns should go here.

Flat | Top-Level Comments Only

For late night thoughts

It's funny, I can look back on photos from years ago and objectively see that I've put on a pretty substantial amount of weight compared to then. But I don't feel any different to how I did then. I don't mean that I still feel skinny; I mean that I already felt really fat before I put the weight on, when my body was - at worst - chubby and a little awkward. And, like, everyone I talked to about it back then was also completely willing to buy into that narrative. That's just... really weird to me.

I suppose this isn't that terribly uncommon, but I never really realized how true it is for me until just now, sorry.

I feel the same way. For the most part I just feel like the same person. I know I weigh more, though for the most part I was always a larger girl even as a child. And I've never felt attractive so I don't really feel any different.

Except for a few photos from third and fourth grade where I look like a stick. I had an eating disorder due to a fear of choking. And I look super unhealthy and it is actually scary because you can see my bones.

Mostly right now trying to frantically exalt all the adult fodder in my lair for Fire Flight's tom push. I put it off and then wasn't feeling well earlier and was working on some writing. So now I have to do all of them before I can go to bed.

Also, my insomnia has been really active the past few nights. My brain just doesn't want to shut off so I can go to sleep. I'm not sure why, but I'm so behind on sleep right now and yet I still don't think I'd fall asleep right now if I tried.

Edited 2016-03-13 03:44 (UTC)

Yeah I hate not being able to shut my brain off. I get terrible insomnia, especially when I have to go somewhere the next day, because I worry my alarm won't go off and I'll be late, which leads to me not sleeping for hours.

The only time I fall asleep easily is when I shouldn't be sleeping, lol.

I never fall asleep easily. It always takes me at least an hour, and I can never sleep in say chairs or cars. But I've learned methods that generally work to slow my brain down and get it to sleep (usually daydreaming and making up stories in my head). But they haven't been working the past few days.

You have been traveling most of the day; now you've reached your destination. Do you call/text/whatever to let the folks you left at home know that you got there safely--and how soon do you do it? Right away? Is the next day all right? How about within 48 hours?

In general: assuming your relationship is good,how often do you communicate with parents?

With siblings?

How about grandparents or other relatives?

If I know people will worry and I've told them I'll let them know I've arrived home safely, I do it within a couple hours via e-mail or text. Why wait? It doesn't take long to type "Home safe. Goodnight!" 48 hours seems a little too long, unless you're dealing with people who don't care if you notify them or not.

I'm on good terms with my family, but we're not chatty unless it's in person. So I'll talk to one sibling a couple times a week via e-mail or in person, the other sibling every few months, my parents every couple weeks or so maybe.

Yes, every time. I let my parents and sister know. And if I was staying with someone, them as well. I worry when I don't hear from people so I figure other people do too.

I think my family goes overboard. If I'm going from my parents' home in Philadelphia to my own home in Iowa, my folks want a call when I get to the Philadelphia airport...and another from Minneapolis or Detroit...and another from Des Moines...and another when I get home. OTOH, they're elderly, and if I haven't heard from them at least once by the end of the day, I start worrying about them, so we talk every day. So I admit I have a warped idea of what is normal.

But I read about characters in books who supposedly have a reasonably OK relationship with their parents or siblings, yet haven't talked in months, and I think to myself WTF, who even does that? And in Twilight, one of the things that instantly turned me off was that Bella is so busy feeling sorry for herself that she doesn't bother to call Renee and tell her she's safely arrived in Forks for 2 days (or was it 3?)--and then, when she finally gets around to checking her email and finds a bunch of frantic messages from her mom, she sends her a really patronizing reply--something like "keep your hair on, oh btw you probably forgot to pick up your dry cleaning without me to remind you."

It depends on the circumstances of the trip and who it is I might notify. If I go to visit my parents, they always ask me to call them when I get home, so I do. They know how long the drive takes and if I forget to call within a couple of hours of when they can expect me to be home, they call me. Other people I might text, like when I visit my cousin or she visits me, we text each other when whichever of us gets home. I travel a lot for work and occasionally exchange texts or emails about it witklh coworkers, but mostly I don't. My parents hardly ever even know if I'm traveling for work or not and I never bother to call and tell them I'm safely at my destination or home again.

I have a great relationship with my parents but we can easily go a month without communicating in any form. I pretty much never talk to my brother except in person, because he is a terrible phone conversationalist, but we can gab for hours if we're in the same room. I used to call my grandparents regularly, but they're all dead now. I send postcards to my great uncle because he can barely hear, so calling him is kind of pointless. I talk to one cousin on the phone every few weeks, but not the others because while I like them all, we grew up far apart and just never developed relationships outside of the occasional visit/reunion/family wedding/funeral.

[ SECRET POST #3356 ]

Random Thoughts

tw weight

Re: tw weight

Re: Random Thoughts

Re: Random Thoughts

Re: Random Thoughts

A question: Tell the folks at home you arrived safely?

Re: A question: Tell the folks at home you arrived safely?

Re: A question: Tell the folks at home you arrived safely?

Re: A question: Tell the folks at home you arrived safely?

Re: A question: Tell the folks at home you arrived safely?