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I'm so sick of people applying arguments to life-or-death situations when they clearly weren't meant to be used that way, and then acting like the person who first made the argument was so silly for even thinking about something less serious.

Like, you're talking about something, and the person won't listen, and you tell them so, and they start lecturing you about how they couldn't stop to listen if someone were attacking them with a knife, then they'd be DEAD (to be read in a nasty, fed-up-with-your-naivete snarl), but obviously you weren't attacking them so why bring it up? But, oops, they've made the conversation SERIOUS. About life and death, and Real Things. And you, silly person, still thinking about nonsense that isn't quite that important? You think you still have the right to say anything, when you should just stand there in a mass of shame and humiliation and WRONGNESS for thinking about silly, petty things when SERIOUS MATTERS OF LIFE AND DEATH exist?

So, yet again, I have made an utter ass of myself, proven myself to be a stupid, frivolous, naive, ridiculous child, one of the masses of human garbage, held up in contrast to a Real Person.

Like, you're talking about something, and the person won't listen, and you tell them so, and they start lecturing you about how they couldn't stop to listen if someone were attacking them with a knife, then they'd be DEAD (to be read in a nasty, fed-up-with-your-naivete snarl), but obviously you weren't attacking them so why bring it up?

I can officially say no one has ever said this to me. Wtf kind of crazy people do you hang with, anon? D:

You sound surrounded by buttholes. My sympathies.

"proven myself to be a stupid, frivolous, naive, ridiculous child, one of the masses of human garbage, held up in contrast to a Real Person"

They were kind of a dick to you, but this is one of the worst ways to react. You're doing exactly the same thing they did and making it even more serious and dramatic.

Brush it off next time. Tell them you suppose their life must be very serious then and you'll find someone who likes fun to talk to, and go on with your day.

I don't actually say that stuff to them, it's just how it makes me feel.

Why take them so seriously?

I try not to! But when they're in serious mode, they have a way of making everything else seem utterly ridiculous. And I wouldn't have much support, because everyone listens to them and usually goes along with it.

This is the kind of person who dominates every conversation, has everyone hanging on his every word, and whenever he decides to get mad at someone (me), they end up looking like the very epitome of stupid, shallow, obnoxiousness, being destroyed by completely righteous anger and intelligent arguments (even if they wouldn't hold up if someone were to actually look at them without the voice and the anger and the general power attached). Everything he says has the quality of one of those "burn" or "rimshot" memes, but so much more imperious sounding.

I do try to ignore him! But it's hard when I know he makes everyone else see me the way he wants them to. So I pretty much have to ignore everyone, and they're much easier to ignore.

Can you just say okay then, you'll find someone else with less pressing issues to talk fun with? Make him look like the ridiculous one for getting so serious.

Get new friends.

They're a family member.

Oof. Sorry to hear that.

And what person's reaction to this would NOT be to stare incredulously and say, in the most deadpanned of tones: "What the fuck are you talking about, you loon?"

The fuck are you even talking about? Unless your kitchen is crawling with knife-wielding ninjas, they haven't made the conversation serious. They've made it nonsensical.

If your kitchen is crawling with knife-wielding ninjas, then they're correct and you shouldn't have distracted them from their vigilance.

Next time they say something like that, just stage whisper, "Guys, the distraction didn't work. S/he's on to us!" and leave.

This is just to say, the heading for this thread sounds like a song lyric or possibly a hipster song title, and it's awesome. Like, before I read the comment I genuinely thought, what song is that from?

Also, this person you are talking about sounds really annoying. It's them, not you.

Yowsa! This Real Person sounds like a massive tool!

Unfortunately you can't change them but you can change how you react to them and see them. Every time you feel you're getting annoyed by their massive toolness, take deep breaths and try to recognize your own reactions and feelings. Try to be kind to yourself and change that inner dialog that this person sets off. Oh, and try to keep that bozo out of your head since they don't add anything of value in there.

Since they're a family member, I assume the dynamics of your relationship have always been there? Can you remember when was the first time they made you feel like crap? Talk kindly to that inner child and say to that child all the things you hoped you had heard back then. Since what this boils down to is re-wiring your brain, try to take a look of your feelings as often as you can, and remember to be kind to yourself.

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