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[ SECRET POST #3375 ]

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[Anna Russell]

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[Versailles TV Series]

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[Jurassic Park, Robert Muldoon]

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[Iggy Pop]

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(Person of Interest)

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[Knight Rider, Michael/KITT]

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[The Division]

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[Song referenced in secret: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VlCZ-DakfyE (Kaleo- "Way Down We Go")]

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[One Punch Man, Saitama, Genos]

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How do you stop getting so angry at the world? It seems the more time I spend online the more I hear about horrible people and the more hateful and angry I get. It's not even about the important stuff. Like womens rights in the middle east are in a shitty state, but the latest thing that's making my rage flare up? I'm having pretty violent fantasies about what I would do if I had the chance to meet the man responsible for this costume design:

http://cdn.segmentnext.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/03/Star-Ocean-5-character-costumes-4-620x349.jpg

It's a fucking video game character and I want to murder someone. Horrible shit is happening, but here I am obsessing over something I know is relatively trivial. I just can't fucking stop. I keep getting angrier and angrier about stuff I should just be able to ignore, but I don't want to ignore it. I'm not able to not think about it,and the more I think about it the more violent my fantasies.

It's not just games, or comics, or movies. that stuff is harmless. Am I really likely to run into Milo Manara, or the Duke Nukem guy, or Zack Snyder in real life? No of course not, those fantasies are pretty harmless compared to what I'm genuinely worried I'd do if I ever met a Trump supporter in real life.

Sorry for the TLDR. Needed to vent. I'm just so angry all the time and it scares me, but I don't know what too do.

WTF is that? How is that even sexy? That doesn't even look hot. It just looks weird.

Not every revealing outfit is meant to be sexy. Sometimes it's just meant to be over the top and, well, weird in a sexually way.

Stop exposing yourself to stuff like this. Don't read the news, blacklist or unfollow this stuff on tumblr, don't read angry posts on whatever other social media you are involved in, immerse yourself in innocent and positive stuff where things are happy and soothing and warm.

I don't mean hide under a rock from ugly stuff in the world forever, but unless reading this stuff is part of your job requirement, there's literally nothing wrong with taking a time out every now and again for a few days/weeks, to heal and recharge.

I agree. And remember that if you're following typical news media, they're purposely hyping it up and putting it in the worst possible light in order to get you worked up so that you keep viewing and they keep making money.

Don't become the monster. :(

It's time to take a break from the internet and media, anon. You're too immersed and have lost perspective. So much media is designed to provoke a strong response, because that's how they get clicks. Some people can handle the constant poking and demands to be mad about this or that, but others cannot. You are one of the people who don't handle this as well, and you need to schedule yourself regular breaks when you feel it getting out of control.

But don't just take a break and sit around thinking about how much X pisses you off. Do something physical to burn off that energy and frustration. Hit the gym, take a walk. In addition to that, do something to help someone. Volunteer somewhere in a position that will make you feel like you're making a difference, no matter how small. You need this combination of shutting out your stressors for a while, burning off excess frustration/stress and allowing yourself to see that there IS something good in this world and that you are doing your part.

but what's your opinion on the so5 panty censorship drama ?

http://segmentnext.com/2016/03/29/revealing-star-ocean-5-character-costumes-censored-due-western-criticism/

Not to go all armchair psychologist, anon, but is it possible there might be some anxiety issues going on here? Your words remind me a whole lot of myself when my anxiety is at its worst, because it just becomes horrible and all-consuming, and it's like the very world itself is sandpaper on my skin and I just need some concrete thing to focus my frustration and on or else I'll explode.

Regardless of the actual cause, though, here's some things that might help:

-Try out strategies for dealing with intrusive thoughts. It's different for everyone, but a lot of times even just having some in mind can help deal with that building rage before it gets too huge. There's a lot of good resources or this sort of thing online.

-Try to find soothing activities, no matter how silly or simple they might seem; the easier to do, the better. Could be knitting, petting an animal, playing a video game, tending to a plant, even something completely odd like playing with a rubber band. If you feel yourself getting into rage mode, try to use them to calm you down.

-Don't beat yourself up for having these fantasies. Violent fantasies don't necessarily a violent person make, and the fact that you know that these thoughts wouldn't be okay to enact in real life indicates (to me, at least) that despite your fears you're not actually a danger to those around you. Everyone thinks about thinks that are unacceptable in real life, and oftentimes with this sort of thing your anger and fear at yourself for having these can feed the violent fantasies and actually make them worse.

-I don't necessarily recommend a weighted blanket, since they're expensive as heck and I don't actually have any clue whether they'd work for your situation, but a lot of the time literal physical pressure can be weirdly helpful for this sort of thing. There are DIY-type resources for this online that can help you figure out whether that might be something worth looking into.

-If at all possible, I encourage you to talk to a professional. I absolutely guarantee it won't be the weirdest thing they've heard (probably won't even be the weirdest thing they're heard that day, honestly) and they have all sorts of strategies to help people deal with intrusive anger. Whether there's an underlying condition that's leading to this anger or not, they can help you deal with it in a way that will make it less frightening and less all-consuming for you.

No matter what, anon, I hope you end up feeling okay! I'll be wishing the best for you.

Edited 2016-03-31 23:36 (UTC)

This, we all process anxiety differently, and I'm also someone who builds up anger, sadly. but I see anger as a warning sign.

yeah, i agree that a chill pill would do you some good.

maybe go for a glass of water and walk. it does me good at least.

though imo there's nothing wrong with scantily clad ladies for male audiences; the only issue is there isn't enough scantily clad people for other audiences.

Honestly?

I laughed my ass off when I looked at that costume. It's so ridiculous, but then, I expect costume designs in video games to be ridiculous.

I think it helps to not take the little things so seriously. A fictional female character wearing a checkerboard "peekaboo" suit does not represent real life women, is not going to corrupt our children, will not destroy women's rights, and cannot transmit the latest scary disease or start a war. It's just a design. A really stupid one, but all the more reason it deserves ridicule.

Some violent fantasies are fine, sometimes even necessary. But as long as you remain conscious of them and don't let them spill over into real life, you'll probably be okay. If they're happening a bit too frequently, you may want to talk to someone, or step back and examine your life. I don't mean that in an insulting way, but maybe your energy is better spent focusing on something in your life, something that you can control, even something positive.

This is a fantastic comment.

And that costume is comically ridiculous. But you know what they say. "Tyrants, authoritarians, and activists all hate the sound of laughter."

"It's so ridiculous, but then, I expect costume designs in video games to be ridiculous."

This. And it's not like the Star Ocean games haven't had men in ridiculous costumes too. Just look at Arumat from Star Ocean 4 - how on earth is that supposed to be considered armor? He's essentially shirtless.

As soon as you figure this out let me know. It's not as extreme for me as it is for you but I do kind of spend every waking moment wanting to punch reality in the nuts.

You sound pretty much like every millennial on the internet. I don't know why you guys get so angry over the smallest things, but it's exasperating.

a screaming rock gets more attention than a ball of yarn

Screaming rock? More like bawling toddler.

Righteous anger is good in moderation, but no one has ever won a debate by raising their voice or making demands.

Maybe the things they're angry about aren't debates to be won, they're issues that aren't getting much attention. As it turns out, raising one's voice and making demands IS very good for that.

No, it's good for making one look like a spoiled child with little sense of perspective.

I get where your coming from. This past summer I was in a state of constant anger at everything. I made some life choices that were hard. I barely go on tumblr anymore and avoid talking about social justice issues unless I'm in a really good mood. If I'm really cranky I go for a long walk if I'm able to which usually clears my head a bit. I also started writing in LJ again which has definitely helped me out. I'm able to get the thoughts out of my head.

The most important thing is to step back. When your constantly hearing about all these horrible things it really starts to affect you.

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